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WHO do you think of most???
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zeeshan said on June 9, 2003 10:57:
I mean the MOST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It has to be JUST ONE PERSON and oh one more thing.. WHY??
TinyBubbles said on June 9, 2003 14:44:
I used to think about my pet fish ’Houdini’ A LOT. Like, mmm... is he hungry?..should i feed him?..when last DID i feed him?..mmm.. what is he thinking about?...does he even ever think about anything?..
The person I think about a lot (like ALL THE TIME) (Every single second of the day) (even in my sleep while i dream) is .... well... you know who you are so that’s all that matters... :-)
Why? OMG. There are NO words... I become speechless when i merely attempt to name the reasons. you..you..you... (see, it’s useless..) NO WORDS could could ever do justice to the feelings i have for you. And that is the truth.
wendy said on June 9, 2003 15:04:
No doubt Santi!!!!!!!!!! ;)
Because i love him sooooooooooo *opens arms as wide as i can* much :p
I wake up,thinking of him,i got to sleep,thinking of him :) and,yeah,since he’s back in Spain,i miss him too much :(
zeeshan said on June 9, 2003 15:27:
Wen you and I are going through the same thing.. TRUST ME.
[EDIT] it is not about Santi of course ;)
TinyBubbles said on June 9, 2003 15:50:
Strange how Zee posts Q’s but doesn’t answer them himself....
Aaso said on June 9, 2003 17:16:
Now it is my car!!!! hey I have got my driving license 2 days ago!!!! :DDDDDD gggggrrrrrrrrr
I’m so happy,
oh I am thinking about driving my car lolzzz
DaminehGessle said on June 9, 2003 18:06:
There have been many people in my life that I’ve lost and they all have been very dear to me. So I think of many people all at once.
It could be a guy, yeah Russ, you! But doesn’t matter any more. So yeah I don’t think of him as much as I used to.
It is definitely both my grandmas. I miss them so much and I miss them even more when I know I will never have them by my side again. Yes, I think of both of them and wish they were here.
powerpoplarry said on June 9, 2003 18:16:
Oh gosh, just ONE person?? See, I’m not in a relationship now, but there are some strong possibilities. I don’t want to steer this focus on the wrong person, and find out she doesn’t feel the same way. And, mentioning someone else’s name, when another someone I am thinking of might have feelings for me, might get upset and things will be awkward and ruined, the possibility squashed.
Plus, mentioning names might jinx everything, so I’m not mentioning any names here...
derek said on June 9, 2003 19:05:
i think of my mother and father who passed away far to young and all the things that i could have said and didnt
Santi said on June 9, 2003 20:37:
If you asked me which is the second person I think of the most I would have a lot of problems. Maybe Liz (one of my best friends), my brother Mark, or some other friends... Maybe my mother, or even Andrea Corr :D
But if you ask me who I think the most of... on top of all of them is all the time Wendy!!!!!! No doubt about it. ;)
TinyBubbles said on June 9, 2003 23:08:
But i’m no good at guessing Zee... :-(
You should tell me. Yeah, e-mail me right now and tell me! :-P
powerpoplarry said on June 10, 2003 04:30:
I have one question, sooooo I want people’s opinion on this. OK, here goes, should I take a serious risk, go out on a limb here and declare my feelings for the 1 person on this board whom I feel has the same feelings towards me?? Or should I keep it private?? What if I am wrong and the correct person gets insulted?? Is it worth the risk??
Anyone?? Should I do it?? Let it out onto this board?? Please let me know...
powerpoplarry said on June 10, 2003 05:05:
Thanks Zee, I’ll wait for more opinions before I decide...
DaminehGessle said on June 10, 2003 05:17:
Larry: Wow I think your reply was the most brilliant one amongst others to me. Everyone else mentioned some guy or girl they liked. Derek ofcourse mentioned his parents which brought tears to my eyes although he’d just written 1-2 lines I don’t remember exactly :). Yours on the other hand was mysterious. I said my grandparents cause they’re whom I think about the most. If there are people I miss in life or love in life, they’d be my family, my parents and my brother. A boyfriend could never be in my mind more than my mom, dad, brother or relatives. That’s just how I feel.
powerpoplarry said on June 10, 2003 05:29:
Hey Damineh, all I said totally came from experience. I really don’t know, I like many people but saying just 1 person could just jinx things, unless it is right. Sometimes saying someone’s name just brings the feelings out, cements them into reality, sometimes it causes irreparable damage. I don’t want any damage to occur by making such a mistake. I learned this in my past. There’s also nothing worse than unrequited love I think.
Would you email me, and we can talk about this in private?? Or just leave it on the board??
One last question, you said family is more important than a boyfriend, understandable totally. How do you feel about a spouse?? In all successful relationships/marriages, the spouse is the most important person, as the spouse becomes your immediate family, more than parents and a brother. A child also becomes more important than the spouse, because a child is forever bonded, but a spouse may not be, in the case of divorce. What I’m getting at is when does a boyfriend become as/more important than your immediate family??? If he never does, a relationship could never advance or grow deeper than just a fling.
zeeshan said on June 10, 2003 06:14:
“A boyfriend could never be in my mind more than my mom, dad, brother or relatives. That’s just how I feel.”
I AGREE!
Z
Santi said on June 10, 2003 10:39:
You both still live in your parents house... right? :O I agree with Larry, in successful relationships your parents and brother become less important and the person you chose and your kids become more.
But I think this has to do with growing up anyway, or are you telling me that your own kid would never be loved as much as (or even more than) your brother? :|
Of course this also has to do with the cultural background.
Aschrum said on June 10, 2003 13:56:
offtopic: a girl i love could NEVER EVER get more important than my relatives
ontopic: OFTEN i think lot of more times about a girl i like pretty much than about a member of my background (family)
derek said on June 10, 2003 18:48:
Larry ask yourself how you realy feel about this person .does that person have the same feelings?????????????you will never know untill you take the risk and ask.and if its wrong well we all have to learn it hurts damn yes. but it will also hurt you if you are afraid to let this person know how you feel it is a catch 22 but only you will know what to do and when. try it Larry and good luck if you want to talk more email me im always open for people
Aschrum said on June 10, 2003 18:54:
i totally agree with you derek. thats what i always tell ppl that are in a situation kinda larry’s, but nevertheless i don’t act as i tell ppl to do cause i don’t like risks. :)
btw: what means “catch 22”?
DaminehGessle said on June 11, 2003 00:10:
Larry: It all depends what kind of a relationship you have with your spouse. For example my parents: They can’t live without one another for more than a few hours. They work together and if my mom leaves for the bank for instance, my dad calls every 5 minutes. He cannot eat without my mom. He cannot breathe without my mom. He cannot live without my mom. That is the ideal marriage I have always had in my mind. Well as I grew up, I realize not every relationship is perfect and ideal. People go through breakups and divorces. I always thought that wouldn’t be for me. I will find my “The One” and that is it. But no... I experienced it for myself and realized love doesn’t always live here. People come and go. For me, guys come and go. I might go out with a guy for years, marry him and live with him for years after. But I’d never know if he stays. You never know. I know I would never leave anyone I love. But how can I make myself believe he wouldn’t when I have seen breakup and divorce cases that shocked me in and out. I don’t want to say I wouldn’t trust the man I will be with, but there is always the possibility of good-byes.
As with parents, they are the ones who take care of you night and day, for you to become a man/woman. They stay up all night, sleep on empty stomach, work their arses off, for you to sleep, never be hungry and be able to have a good life. As with my parents, they have given everything I have ever wished for, for me to be who I am today. And God knows I will always, always be there for them no matter what.
And family such as grandparents, uncles and aunts and cousins: they are irreplacable as well. How can one fill the love I have for those people? They gave me life. They made me the person I am today. No. Noone will ever feel their love in my heart and soul. Noone.
Santi I guess It was you who asked the question whether I was living with my parents still. I moved to Victoria (3 hours away from Vancouver) 3 years ago. I actually came back every single weekend for 1 year but as school schedule got tight, I could only make it once a month. I also lived in California for 9 months during which, I saw my parents 3 times. I have been living at home for the past month because my workterm is in Vancouver. They are more than happy that I am with them. They say I light up the house as I am singing loudly all the time :D.
I have asked my mom so many times the question of whether she liked us (her kids) or my dad or her parents more and she always says: each and every one of you have a special place in my heart. And she is right. My dad is the father of her children and the one she has been sharing her life for the past 25 years. Her parents are her everything although my grandma passed away last year. And my brother and I bring life to her life :D.
I owe my life to my parents. My husband will never feel what I have been through to become who I am today. My parents already know all about it. I hope I find the right person to share my life with just like my mom and dad, but he will never ever replace the love I have for my family.
powerpoplarry said on June 11, 2003 18:00:
Asch, the term “Catch 22” means that either way, you are stuck, or something is at a loss, or something will go wrong. Basically.
Woah, Damineh, what you said was very deep and passionate, and I am feeling you. I can see you have a very deep relationship with your parents, and that is great. With me, my parents + I, we’ve clashed a lot, and haven’t had the greatest of relationships, not like yours at all, and I actually envy you. Now, as for your parents, it looks like they don’t give each other any space. If that works, great. But with me, the perfect relationship/marriage is a balance between togetherness and individuality, where you have boundless support + love, but enough breathing room/space to be yourself and not lose/sacrifice the individual traits that make you YOU. Without it, you could suffocate or feel a bit smothered. Know what I mean?? You should be together most of the time, but have ample time for your friends and doing the things you like that your spouse may not necessarily dig. You shouldn’t have to give all that up that makes you happy.
Your parents have been married for 25 years?? That’s great!! My parents have been married for the past 39 years, and still as strong as ever. Our parents are rare, ya know that Damineh?? With all the divorce rates and all, our parents’ marriages are downright scarce!! Like you, I want my one marriage to be right, as divorce is hellish, espesh if kids are involved. I know, my friend Dan went through a divorce and he + his ex have 2 kids. Why did they divorce?? She cheated on him!! And he caught them. I never liked his wife anyway, she always left me cold.
I’m sorry you’ve had some rough times and relationships where guys walked out, that really sucks, and it affects your trust, cuz you’re right. As much as you believe, and as much as they say otherwise, you never know if a someone will leave. Sometimes, you have to love + trust blindly, and hope it doesn’t happen. Me neither, I would never leave “the one” I love, but sometimes relationships go bad, and leaving is the only way out. Not that I would do that, I just want to make sure things are right before I commit to something like marriage. I like your commitment and determination and willingness to stick by a relationship through thick + thin. You’re strong Damineh, VERY strong, just like your parents, I can tell. Yes, you have seen shocking breakups and divorces, as have I, but every case is different, not evry one is the same, so you really can’t generalize, no matter how high the divorce numbers are, ya know??
As for the relationship, I understand why your parents and grandparents are #1 in your book, and no, no one will ever replace them for you. That is a beautiful thing indeed. I guess your husband will have to occupy another place in your heart, that’s all.
You’re a beautiful, strong person, Damineh, do you know that?? ;-)
derek said on June 11, 2003 20:08:
hey Larry yes its the guy he he. iv been married twice and divorced twice and i have 3 children but im ok. cause it hurts only a fool would say i didnt but thats life when you fall down pick yourself up dust yourself of and carry on with your life i love my kids we have a very close bond.my two sons are handsome (just like me he he ) and my daughter is gorgeous and im a proud dad so all in all everything turned out good
Aaso said on June 12, 2003 15:34:
derek it’s great that you love your children. Do they live with you? How old are them??
derek said on June 12, 2003 17:39:
@Aaso
two of my chilren live with me one is nealy 21 and the is just 19 my daughter from my first marriege is 33 (i was married very young) @Wendy take your time and enjoy life fisrst before you commit yourself to children( wise words)
derek said on June 13, 2003 18:57:
who me old. never i dont feel a day over 80 no just kidding i was wondering when my age would come up i know all you guys and gals are young but just remember this “age is just a number between your ears”nothing more nothing less and so what if im 50 am i to old for you ????????????or does it make you feel uncomfortable i dont bite you know (only pretty things)so come on people let me know what you think im curieus of how your think about *older people*
Santi said on June 13, 2003 19:04:
Never mind :D
One of my best friends is 39... but then what, he’s younger than many people that I see every day in the university. :P
ally77 said on June 13, 2003 19:22:
Yeah I have a particular person I am thinking about a lot of the time at the moment... he is a TDR member but I don’t want to tell his name because I may be wrong and make a complete fool of myself....
derek said on June 13, 2003 19:57:
thanxs Santi i feel young and thats what counts.And ally77 who knows. dont have regrets if you feel something say it. if its private email me (i was born in Peterborough how far is that away from you/)
ally77 said on June 13, 2003 20:11:
My parents are still in love and have been for 30 years they have been married 28 years this year!!
zeeshan said on June 14, 2003 00:47:
ally77: wow!!!!!!!!!!! They are just like my parents :D great stuff!
Z
Jackie_Radiorox said on June 14, 2003 03:26:
Me!!!! I think of me!!!!
No really, I haven’t a clue... relatively I am not a great person, I tend to forget people around me.. including friends and relatives... Hmmm... I guess it depends in what context. ;)
Aaso said on June 14, 2003 06:50:
Ally, Im sure he’s fine. And Im sure your feelings are right. Just trust it ok? Go on. I bet you 2 will be a good couple :DD
AND, He has to be fine cuz loving a girl like you is the most happiness in the wolrd. (I know he loves you)
Ally, It is the best time to act. Ya know what I mean ;)
derek said on June 14, 2003 15:48:
great news about your parents 28yrs of love for each other Ally77
ally77 said on June 14, 2003 19:18:
Okay time to confess.... (I just hope to god I am not making a complete fool of myself!!)
I have been at work for 12 hours today and all day I thought about Larry!! (((blushes)))
Aaso said on June 14, 2003 19:40:
oh I thought you must have met eachother by now! how late ... come on Larry!
ally77 said on June 14, 2003 19:43:
@ Aaso.... I can’t get to London as been working today and tomorrow is FATHER’S DAY here in the UK and also it will be my Dad’s birthday on Tuesday so I have to spend the day with him and on Sunday evening I am going to a concert in Manchester!
However already planning a trip to visit Larry next year in NYC!!
Roxrider_USA said on June 14, 2003 20:02:
Mel is the one i think of the most!
It’s just like a wallpaper on a desktop computer. It’s always there. :-)
Carlos E., New York.
Aaso said on June 15, 2003 17:36:
It is YOU whom I think about! And you know it, there’s no need to remind :DD
TinyBubbles said on June 16, 2003 10:22:
You’re thinking about Aschrum?! This is tooooo much!!!!! *speechless*
zeeshan said on June 16, 2003 10:46:
yeah like any problem me and andre are in love right aschrum? :D
TinyBubbles said on June 16, 2003 11:40:
Well guys, i don’t mean to be discouraging or anything, but hello? One of you lives in Pakistan and the other in Germany. How are u gonna make that work? Just curious....
xuxa said on June 16, 2003 11:55:
When two people really LOVE each other, everything is possible !! :D
TinyBubbles said on June 16, 2003 11:58:
Couldn’t agree more! But eh, one of them is GERMAN!? lols
[EDIT] I don’t know what i mean by that. lols
zeeshan said on June 16, 2003 12:02:
I love someone so madly.. I KNOW IT IS GONA WORK. Distances mean NOTHING. NOTHING for me.
It is your love which is more important and as for andre.. ah I wish he was a girl! :S no wait.. a german girl? ehh.. bad bad bad idea! :D
Z
Aschrum said on June 16, 2003 12:04:
a lil bit of racism?!
but what when he wuld love someone that lives in the fuckin states of america?
TinyBubbles said on June 16, 2003 12:12:
Fucking states of America. Ha ha ha. Ha ha ha. Oh, no i swore. Someone is gonna kill me. Hopefully with love. Yeah, come kill me with love!
xuxa said on June 16, 2003 12:16:
If you really love this person so madly you have to prove it, man!!!
You have to demolish ALL the barriers!! ;)
zeeshan said on June 16, 2003 13:23:
actually Pak/Germany are good friends.. we have good ties with Germany.
Z
xuxa said on June 16, 2003 13:24:
LOLZ
This is sooo fun now!!! pitty that I have to go to work *cry*
Take care you all and enjoy!! :DD
zeeshan said on June 16, 2003 19:22:
Read again and then again and u might get it.. IF NOT then.. come here and ask again.. then I’ll tell ya the whole story but ya gota try first ;)
Z
powerpoplarry said on June 17, 2003 09:06:
Hey, I am back from London, for my brother’s wedding. OMG, that whole weekend was out of this world. As you all know, AASO did first, the one person I had been thinking of all this time is Ally. We had been talking privately for the past 2-3 months, we became fast friends, and we let nature take its course. I guess we’ve been bitten by that love bug creature, huh?? ;-))))))) My head is clear, my feelings for her, mutual.
Ally is, to use Carl’s word, my Mel, or, my fave pet name for Ally, Luv. Ally is my Luv and always will be. ;-) I was a bit bummed she couldn’t meet up with me when I was in London, but she was just being practical, work to do and stuff. I do regret not asking for her phone number to talk when I was over there, but it’s not too late, I’ll just dial internationally on a phone card. ;-P
All I say is, Ally, I love you and I think of you everyday. AASO, you’re a great friend, and I appreciate your help in setting things up right. ;-)
Oh and Ally, your parents have been together for 28 years?? Awesome!! Mine have been married since December, 1964, so that would be 38 years.
zeeshan said on June 17, 2003 11:37:
Larry: what?! oh boy.. if I were in U.S.A (I mean anywhere in U.S.A and america is huge u know) I would have defenitely payed “HER” a visit even if I had to walk all the way.
This guy in the office borrowed some money from me(and he is earning 3 times more than me). I couldn’t say NO... so now I am really really down to nothing.. I am finding it difficult to ASK him to give me my money back and things are getting worst each day for me. Hope he returns me my money back soon so that I could ATLEAST call her. You know L-O-N-G Distance call.
Z
xuxa said on June 17, 2003 15:46:
Hey Zee, there is an easy way to talk with her and you don’t have to pay at all. It calls voice chat ;)
Roxrider_USA said on June 17, 2003 15:48:
@Larry: Way to go, man! Congrats. :-)
@Mel: Thanks, minha bonita!
Take care!
Carlos E., New York.
zeeshan said on June 17, 2003 17:10:
Xuxa: nice idea.. I have never had a chance to ask her to talk to me.. I feel...mm.........m....... I don’t know I CAN’T explain.. just don’t get the courage to do it. She doesn’t even sends me her pic u know :S
Z
powerpoplarry said on June 17, 2003 17:17:
Hey, thanxx Carl!! I’m still on a high from this awesome weekend, and now mine + Ally’s mutual feelings for each other. I keep thinking, do I have to pinch myself?? Is this all a dream??????????
Zee, thanks, um, sure, I woulda LOVED going up to Bolton on Saturday or Monday, but everything woulda been ruined, the stuff around my brother’s wedding, AND my flight home too. I prefer thinking with my heart, but sometimes you have to think practically, unfortunately, as much as it hurts.
Yes, I love Ally so much right now, it really hurts. Yes, I will want to talk internationally with Ally via a phone card, I want to hear her sweet voice... ;-)
Aschrum said on June 17, 2003 18:09:
yup
i know so
but he hasent shown (sent) me the pictures yet cuz the mystirious gal didnt allow him to yet :(
@ zee:
u can voice-chat on paltalk or msn remember? :D
TinyBubbles said on June 17, 2003 18:11:
Eh, he never asked me permission *confused* But he knows i would say ’no’
ally77 said on June 17, 2003 19:21:
Who do I think if the most..... Larry... not been able to get him out if my head for days....
powerpoplarry said on June 18, 2003 05:40:
Me too Ally, me too....I can’t get you off my mind for well over 2 weeks now....just thinking of special songs...
xuxa said on June 9, 2003 11:06:
The person who I think MOST is my boyfriend Rui. Because he is the only man I ever loved and the one i choose to live my life with and have my THREE kids ehehehe. We have been together now more than FOUR YEARS... and it’s greaaatt!! :DDD
But Zee, if you are talking about people in TDR , ok... the person is YOU !!!!! :DDDD, and i don’t have to tell the reasons, because i already did it on “zee-forum” :DDD