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The Truth.....
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ally77 said on June 23, 2003 19:31:
Okay I have to put my own point of view forward on this....
Yes me and Larry had been emailing each other for about 4 months and developed a really good friendship.......
Yes I fell for Larry whom let’s be totally honest is a complete stranger to me and just someone I met through TDR.......
Yes I do have strong feelings for Larry and would go as far as to say I love him.... but how can you honestly say that you love someone whom you have never met or spoke to.......
Yes I apprecite Larry took time out and called me on Sunday evening unfortunatly something came up. I was not expecting the call although did say it would be best to call in the evening, this he did and he left a message......
Seems Larry loved me and I have upset him and used him - how can I use someone who I have never met? or even spoken to?
People who are in love or experiencing love knows that true love can only be with someone you see on a daily basis.... you cannot fall in love withsome that you do not know 100% You cannot talk about marriage and stuff like that......... that is scary for anyone esp for 2 people who have never met........
Yes I still have feelings for him but things will not be going any further. Yes I was planning on going to NY next year but that would have been another 12 months away and I would not expect anyone to wait for me or vice versa that long to find that we hate each other when we meet in person.
Last but not least I am not leaving TDR because of this... I have things I need to sort out and I am simply going away for a while to evaulate things and sort stuff out... I am sure you have all had times in which you have wanted some breathing space....
Anyhow Larry is a great guy and I am sure there are other females on the board that will take his heart, they know who they are!!
So I am sure I will be back...... until again.......
xxx Ally xxx
kachina008 said on June 23, 2003 20:25:
I understand your feelings...but I met/dated/talked with my bf on the web and on the phone for a year until we met F2F for the first time...and it worked out for us. I’m sure that there are many apprehensions that you might be going thru, it’s a hard choice to continue with something that is gonna be difficult, esply when you guys are far apart. I’m sure i dont know much about the situation, but this I do know, I might have lost the best thing that ever happened to me if I had ignored the feelings that my guy inspired in my heart.
I hope that you are happy, no matter what you do :) take care.
Anarem said on June 24, 2003 03:19:
Ooof, I think it’s hard to maintain a long-distance relationship with someone, especially if they’re half a world away. How would you manage the important things, like intimacy (by this mean I mean sex), going out for dinner, seeing a movie, having a cappucino? Can’t really do that online. And the whole attraction/chemistry thing, sure 80% of it is intellectual and mental, but a good part of it has to do with the physical. Sure, a guy may look cute in an online photo, but you meet them in real life, you think “oh, he’s the wrong height, hey, he’s too skinny/a little doughy... ewww, he’s got too deep a voice/a girly voice...” Once the mental picture is shattered, it kills it for you right then and there.
Sometimes people devote all their time and energy to their online relationships that they can’t or won’t take a chance with someone in their own backyard, or even in the same time zone... I don’t know, for me, living my life around calculating what time my love is awake and typing e-mails back and forth in front of a computer (when I could be hanging out with friends and forming bonds)... an online love affair just wouldn’t be a complete life for me.
DaminehGessle said on June 24, 2003 05:06:
I totally agree with Anarem. Duno what else to add cause you have explained it all anarem.
powerpoplarry said on June 24, 2003 05:47:
Sure Ana, it IS easier to have a girlfriend locally, but it’s more exciting to have a girlfriend from a faraway land. Espesh when the girls in my area are not all that great, they mostly play games and are materialistic. Foreign girls entice me, because they are much more real, and are more exciting and exotic to me.
Not easy to meet a nice single girl in NYC, all the good ones are taken...
Aschrum said on June 24, 2003 10:48:
in a 9-million-girls-city it is not easy to find a single one??
Anarem said on June 24, 2003 11:59:
@larry:
I totally agree with Ashrum– there are *millions* of girls in NYC, *different* shapes and sizes, *different* backgrounds, *different* tastes and preferences. and you’re lumping them all into *one* category– “mostly play games and are materialistic”? I think, my good man, therein lies the problem. You’ve had bad luck with girls in your city and so you’re just giving up.
Do you honestly believe there aren’t exotic and exciting girls in your own backyard? And that foreign girls don’t play games and aren’t materialistic? You’re doing the rest of us “foreign girls” a disservice by stereotyping us.
powerpoplarry said on June 24, 2003 18:34:
Anarem, the answer is no, there aren’t any!! Yes there are all different races, shapes and sizes, but they all have the same mentality, I dunno why!! It seems NYC girls are a whole breed unto their own. They are usually all materialistic and shallow and they DO play mindgames!! My friend Kenny has the same problem!! It’s totally mindblowing. My experience with foreign women, as well as American girls outside of the NYC area, is that they are different from girls around here. They are more down-to-earth, honest, more REAL, not shallow like NYC/Long Island girls.
I’m serious!!!! Ana, I know you’re not into guys, but you’re cooler than all NYC girls put together...
Anarem said on June 25, 2003 02:47:
@Larry:
Flattery will get you _almost_ everywhere. :-)
Dude, there *is* someone out there for you. Go join a class, do stuff that you like to do, join a gym, volunteer... I know it’s hard to find someone special (I’m still looking myself!) but don’t give up hope.
And if worse comes to worse, you could always move to Buffalo. :-)
DaminehGessle said on June 25, 2003 05:42:
Yeah again, I agree with Anarem thank you very much.
Larry, what makes you think that foreigners are not materialistic? There are good and bad anywhere you go. YOu just have to open your eyes and see the world as it is. People you talk to behind the monitor can hide what you don’t like bettter than you can ever imagine.
Aschrum said on June 25, 2003 06:34:
yup
as like i CULD say that in europe are LOTS of materialistic girls BUT
here are also LOT “good” girls!!
ally77 said on June 25, 2003 17:42:
Howdy people.... seems my eyes have been opened...... I shall be back soon as just booked a little break away, sun, sea, sand, and ummmmm (how’s it go) sangria!!
Until then... have a good life.... also really pleased as “Marazin” arrived this morning from the fanclub so get to take it with me!!
Well the beaches of Salou are calling me!!
powerpoplarry said on June 23, 2003 20:24:
Thank you Ally for clearing that up. Now I know I can move on. However, how do you know, if and when we woulda met, we woulda hated each other?? That’s negative, my thoughts were that we’d have been the perfect couple. I am the eternal optimist, I guess you are not.
Anyhoo, Ally, I wish you the best, but I am still smarting in a major way, I’ll live, even though I break down sometimes at what we had... :-(