roxtexanet said on May 29, 2003 18:51:

errr... well, thank you for that. But I have to say that I go to school and work and I play squash three times a week and go out with my friends, read books, watch TV, hang out with my girlfriend, play with my cats and try to learn as much as I can about other people and places. I love Roxette and many, many other artists as well. I think most people on this board are a lot more like me than they are like you (were).

ally77 said on May 29, 2003 18:58:

WOW.... am I really like that..... NO AND ERMMMM NO!!

Good god, I love Roxette etc.... but they do not rule my life... they may have done when I was 13!!

I go to work

I have friends, who don’t like Roxette, who hate them in fact!!

I go on holiday .. (okay Sweden!... you got me on that!)

I go to the gym 3 times a week!

I go out at weekend’s with friends!

I rent films/DVD/Videos..........

I listen to the radio.... (you know that little thing that gives out music..... which Roxette only ever get played on Radio 2!)

I buy CD’s that are not Roxette... surprising...

Okay I use to buy everything I could get my hands on... and if I see something I like that I have not got I will buy it!, it’s part of being a fan of something...

Football fans... but footie programmes & shirts (if you get my drift!!)

Shane said on May 29, 2003 19:57:

@agghh - Wow - your description of how you used to be is kind of scary..

Thank you for your concern but I agree with roxtexanet - I think most (probably all) people on this site have broad, diverse lives. They just come to TDR to share a common interest - a love of Roxette music. I know my life is fun and full of non-Roxette activities....

Santi said on May 29, 2003 21:19:

Not at all!!!!!!!

I couldn’t disagree more with you, at least in my case. Roxette has never ruled my life. I listen also to much different music that well, I got to know thanks to the interviews of Per Gessle and Noel Gallagher when they talks about their favourite songs and bands. Also researching Napster and so on.
An that just in music. But my life is a whole lot more than music. Actually I like Roxette because I like Scandinavia, it has always been like that. I was even super-glad when Denmark won the Euro’92 in football :D I don’t know why but Scandinavia has been in my heart even before I heard The Look. So I went as exchange student to Sweden but it didn’t have anything to do with Roxette.
And the people I know... my best friends (except my girlfriend and the people I met here) all think Roxette is such crap that they should be banned :D
Roxette is just one of my favourite bands (it’s not my favourite right now...), and an amazingly nice sound on my ears :) I love it, but I don’t depend on it

Edu82 said on May 29, 2003 21:47:

I slept with Marie some years ago...

s-czopek said on May 29, 2003 22:45:

@aarrgghh :

It seems to me you misjudged most people posting messages here.
You probably thought you were in a Justin Timberland message board...
Don’t worry everyone here looks quite healthy.
No offence.

Majdy said on May 30, 2003 06:22:

Roxette still influence me in MANY things. But that doesn’t mean I don’t do anything else.. I go to the movie, reading books etc..

powerpoplarry said on May 30, 2003 07:23:

Hey man, don’t get me wrong!! Yes, Roxette IS my all-time fave band right now, BUT I love a ton of other powerpop bands, like a new fave, Canadian girlband LILLIX, as well as alt-country artists + others like late bass master Jaco Pastorius and NY postpunk noise rock band Sonic Youth!! I am an openminded guy, except for stuff I know I will hate, like generic mall pop punk.

I also have a life, I work, I travel, I have friends here on this board and many outside it, I go to movies, I love rollercoasters, and I go to lots of other music artist websites as well.

You’re just concerned for us, and that’s great, thanks, but I’m OK really!!!

Jud (moderator) said on May 30, 2003 10:30:

why do you worry so much about all those fans? ;)

Anarem said on May 30, 2003 12:00:

@ Aaggh:

I think that the people you’re talking about probably believe they don’t have a problem and are in deep denial. So most likely they aren’t going to reply to this particular discussion forum and admit they have 10 copies of the same album (that’s like owning 10 of the exact same sweater) or say that they want to marry Per or Marie. You’re right, it is quite sad.

But to say that *most* fans here are obsessed– I disagree with you there. A lot of the people on this forum seem quite normal, going to work like regular Joes, and are busy living their own lives. I myself spend more time worrying about the bills and living my own life rather than wondering about what Marie’s favourite colour is. Sure, there are a few nutjobs here that I could do without, but to paint us all with the same brush– it’s just wrong.

Zargo said on May 30, 2003 13:17:

Of course you get people like that with every popular band, tv series etc. because there are a minority of fans that like to think that if they have the biggest collection of multimedia etc. and learn everything there is to know, then that makes them ’the biggest fan.’

But this is definatly a minority... most of us sadly have to enter reality every now and then.

Emil__BG said on May 30, 2003 13:45:

Roxette,Marie,Gyllene tider... what more you need??:-))))))))))

i guess that writing every day in this forum seems to someones very scary,but it’s not so scary isn’t it:-)
I’m very happy and thankful for every min with Roxette music..
i’m very happy and thankful for every meeting with Rox fans,no matter how he or she looks or acts..

that doesn’t mean that i don’t have a life but having a life doesn’t mean that i don’t love Roxette..
Roxetttttttttteeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!
:-))))))))))))))))))))))

sfchemist said on May 30, 2003 15:17:

it could just be that people get so fed up talking to people who have no idea who roxette are that when they meet someone that does they go over the top, so you get the impression that they are insane when really they are quite normal.

personally i am insane and i just don’t care, its boring being normal.

Santi said on May 30, 2003 18:54:

I guess an insane chemist is less dangerous than an insane biologist :D ... anyway, who’s sane?

derek said on May 30, 2003 21:15:

@agghh get a life please im a roxette fan for 18yrs i love all types of music and noboby rules my life except me (well maybe one other person)i do what i want when i want and i will talk to anyboby who wants to talk to me. the fans are good people and if you have had a bad time in the past then im sorry but we are not all the same we do have lives and if it means listening to roxette so what ??it beats a lot of the crap that is on the radio ok no affence intended

on_a_mission said on May 31, 2003 10:08:

why is everyone so desperate to justify themselves if you are all that confident of your sanity? Especially to a random you do not know

rox-kuryliw said on May 31, 2003 11:17:

on a mission , IM MAD thats why LOL just becouse i want to , same reason you posted that
:-P

Agghh said on May 31, 2003 11:25:

@Judith: then he’d better say a GT fan

derek said on May 31, 2003 14:48:

@agghh yep you are right i should have said “nealy”18yrs because the idea of joining forces was in 85 but didnt get around to it till 86 ok we can make mistakes yer know sorry

derek said on May 31, 2003 21:07:

@ agghh. yea chill out ok if you are not happy with yourself then change your life i did but like i said we are not all the same (thank god)

mariok said on June 1, 2003 22:14:

?????? I love Roxette, but I like listening to several other artists. And when I go out I also have a great time with music I’d never listen to if i could choose. I only get angry if it’s hip hop... And: I’d never buy 10 versions of the same single. Actually in the early past I stopped buying singles if there doesn’t come a really interesting B-side with it. And nevertheless I call myself a Roxette-FAN.

btw: I guess that’s the way most Roxette-Fans are acting, cause singles are becoming flops all (recent)time and albums are always top on the charts. (except this stupid compilations)

I don’t think (most) guys out there are sooo crazy about Roxette as you (aarghh) described, are you?

Lennon said on June 2, 2003 11:39:

Hey Agghh!

I know what you mean and of course noone of us here would identyfy with your description, what a surprise :-)
But I think it’s worth thinking about your words, because it happens so often that we follow something our whole life although it has lost it’s important elements. The reason why we chose this way is gone, but we still go it, ’cause we think it’s our way. But it often is an otherone’s (or noone’s) way.
I’m frightened of this sometimes.
What you wrote down was espacially about Roxette-fans, but to me that’s a much more common kind of question that’s worth to be asked from time to time.

And to take this Roxette-example:
I started collecting Roxette-records in 1994 and I wanted a complete collection. The strange thing with collectors (no matter if they are collecting stamps, toy-cars, postcards or whatever) is that it becomes quite irrational after a certain time.
First I wanted to have all Roxette-CDs because of the music. Not beeing dependend to when radio plays a song, but be able to listen to it whenever I want to. Later it was more the force to complete something, to create a kind of order in my life. I mean, I never listen to all these remixes, but I payed lot’s of money for the “Stars”-Vinyl-Maxi (don’t have a recordplayer at all) just to be able to put it between the “WICF” and “Salvation”-Vinyl.
Within the years I lost my interest in collecting more and more, but still I try to keep up with the new releases of Roxette and co.

But I think it’s quite sad to see someone who’s live is ruled by one single thing. It can be the Roxettefan who knows the birthday of Maries children, mother and sister but does not recognize that he just forgot his girlfriend’s/boyfriend’s birthday.
And there are many many Professors on university who never see natural light because they are working on a single molecule in a certain type of cell for their whole life.
The difference to a fan is, that an extreme fan is not able to do anything on his own. All the thinks he/she enjoys only depend on what her/his idol does. You collect something, but it’s nothing you created yourself, you see your idol topping the charts, but it’s not your own efford. And if this happens to someone in an extremely way this is really sad.
In this point the Professor I mentioned above is much more creative and independend, even if he also might have the same small view of the world and the same kind of fanatism.

To talk about me: I’m glad that I sometimes can be fascinated by things, and this is very often music. I do not want to miss that and I want to be a fan in these moments.

But I think that everyone of us should still be able to be fascinated by herself/himself sometimes (maybe like the professor who just discovered a new gene that regulates his favourite molecule).

There is a German Punk-Pop-Group called “Die Toten Hosen” and they wrote a self-critical song to their fans called “Helden und Diebe” (Heroes and thiefs), which is about their own career, about ups and downs and the pressure, always to deliver something new and still be an idol.
The song ends with the words:
“wenn Ihr an etwas glauben wollt glaubt an Euch selbst und nicht an uns”
(if you want to believe in something, believe in yourselves and not in us). Says everything, don’t you think?

Just realised that I wrote a little bit too much, but who cares?

LaMan said on June 2, 2003 14:20:

well I´m not a maniac!
Just a calm down fan...
Haven´t listened to Rox for weeks

derek said on June 2, 2003 22:28:

@Lennon. what a great letter thanx
@max-teb .tease away my friend i dont mind .its nealy 18yrs but whoes counting i am a roxette admirer for sure and it has never ruled my life (not even my ex-wife)he he he. but i can understand why some people become fixsated by one thing to let it run their lives but enough said i think this dicussion is getting old and cold i think @agghh has heard enough from us roxers i hope she has gotten her answer

derek said on June 3, 2003 22:26:

@max-tob you see you are also a 18yr fan dicussions are ok but after a time they get boring and like you i dont have the patience (heeeeeeee.heeeeeeeeeeeee)have a nice day and will catch you later on another topic bye bye

Agghh said on June 5, 2003 10:02:

@Lennon: I feel like you had been my words when I didn’t find them. Thank you. Maybe my message seemed a little “heavy”, but yours were the words I really tried to put together.
There is a sentence from a weird movie that made me think a lot, and it’s just what you’ve said, more or less like this: “love is the name we use when we don’t want to think we’ve spoilt a lot of years in a relationship”. Just put FAN instead of LOVE. As you said, we like someone (or something) and enjoy with it. Then we try to put an order in our lives by collecting everything about our idol, but at a certain moment it loses its original meaning. It’s like a snowball running down a mountain, getting bigger and bigger. We just go on with it, other way we’d have to stop and think, why I’ve been doing this all this time, when it got out of control.
I do know Die Toten Hosen, but not that song (I’ll have to give it a listen).
Thanks again and greetings.

knight said on July 19, 2003 05:19:

“Days drift into days, life just slips away, everything you do ’n’ say, nothin’ but a clichie’.”

THE CLICHIE’S OF THE WORLD

Salvation7-20-7 said on July 20, 2003 06:59:

Well...despite what it may seem, Roxette isn’t my life. I’m a huge fan, but I’m a huge fan of a lot of different people. I work (for the school system), I have hobbies (trying to write the ’Great American Novel’), and I love to hang out with friends *camping and such).

I’m not a fanatic, I just play one on tv :)

Cheers,
Salvation7-20-7

coyboyusa said on July 20, 2003 11:47:

this is exactly why noone understands roxette fans. we don’t only lisaten to roxette, we don’t only think per and marie make the best music in the world....but we are fans of greatly composed pop music and thats what roxette prodouces. Igf you can’t undserstand that then there is somethign inherently wrong with you.