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Disappointed because of TDR Members
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Twilight-Ghost said on May 24, 2003 14:57:
Has any of the TDR members disappointed you?
You don’t have to name names. (You can if you want to). But lately I’ve been feeling so much heat on this forum. People going away and people being rude.
Maybe we could point out what other TDR members has done that we found offensive or annoying. So, people will stop going away and others will stop being rude. So we could all live harmoniously in this forum.
Twilight-Ghost said on May 24, 2003 15:57:
Just like to point out to Damineh:
“Those who are spoilt and sissy are the ones who are usually rude!!!”
By the way, I don’t think there is such thing as “can’t face rudeness”. People being rude to you just comes as a surprise, therefore you have no choice but face it, it is how you react to it that defines you as a person. You can either explain yourself or be rude back. A civilise person will explain themselves. A rude person will just be rude back and call them “stupid”.
But of course, it’s alright to say you don’t like someone if they are rude.
Stormkeeper: I already told you how very alike we are ;)
Ferdan said on May 24, 2003 16:49:
i´m a lot of times rude and I don’t remember insulting anyone... I generally use their own words to show them as stupid...
or I insult the ideas or topics, but not the person. (I mean “insult” as using words like stupid, fu you, and that stuff)
And harmony can get boring too..... :)
ally77 said on May 24, 2003 17:27:
No one has ever insulted me on TDR.... or if they have I have taken it with a pinch of salt...
HARMONY & PEACE TO ALL!!!
DaminehGessle said on May 24, 2003 18:27:
Well Stormkeeper you are being very insulting. I never use bad words in here, do I? Jeez!
It’s surprising how people get offended when things don’t go their way or others disagree with them! Shame!
on_a_mission said on May 24, 2003 20:33:
just on this note - sorry if I have ever been rude. I hope not. cheers.
wendy said on May 24, 2003 20:39:
Mmmyeah.... some of them did....
But,anyway,i don’t care so much about it,i mean,if you “loose friends” it’s better to loose them too soon then too late,cuz,that means they were never real friends.....
sweet_stalker57 said on May 25, 2003 02:55:
It’s all fun and games until SOMEONE who can DISH IT OUT but can’t TAKE IT starts to CRY and emails the moderator.
Twilight-Ghost said on May 25, 2003 04:13:
Ferdan: I understand what you’re saying. I do exactly what you do. I disagree with the topic or ideas but I don’t insult the person. Believe me you are not being rude but just simply arguing your case and if that offense people it’s their problem. I do that too. I argue my case, it may offend people, that’s their problem but I never ever insult the person. Never!!!
In fact if you can, make your argument so good, that they wouldn’t know what/how to reply or be too ashame to respond.
You said “harmony” can get boring??? I think what you mean is “if everyone agreed with you” that is boring. When I said “harmony” I meant no insulting other people, no childish posts, so people who are sensitive won’t leave.
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This is what I think, there are people who will disagree with you, no escape on that. That’s life!!! It’s “okay” to disagree and I can’t stress that enough. This is a forum it is what we do here. But if you want to fight back, do it in a polite manner. You can either discuss your opinion, and if you think someone is stupid, don’t tell them right out (because that is just rude), say it in other way, argue your way in such a manner that the person will get the message and still make you look like a nice person.
I mean if you look at my post, I disagree with many people here one way or another but never once have I called anybody rude names.
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DaminehGessle: You are being hypocrite towards Stormkeeper for insulting you. Well, didn’t you insult people who watches Buffy calling them “not intelligent”???
It’s alright to disagree with someone. It’s alright to criticise, it’s okay to say “I don’t like watching Buffy” but to say “people who watches Buffy are stupid” is just plain wrong. And I suppose you are very intelligent right? (
harriej said on May 25, 2003 19:24:
Yes, sometimes there are people who disappoint me on this forum ,but that are less than 5 people.
I don’t have any problem with most people over here.
There is a difference in having a different opinion (which is ok with me; if everybody would have the same opinion it would be a boring world.) and in constantly being a jerk and being negative towards everything which another person has to say.
on_a_mission said on May 25, 2003 19:56:
yea - the insulting stuff isnt cool. Also, I feel people can get TOO wound up about specific topics. Does anyone remember from way back the thread that went on forever about ballads? That was an essay contest. hehe!
DaminehGessle said on May 26, 2003 01:54:
If you read it carefully, I generalized it and called people who watch the show unintelligent. I am not denying it.
Anarem said on May 26, 2003 02:10:
What I can’t stand is people making hasty generalizations, like, “My cousin is a Buffy fan, she’s not intelligent, therefore all people who watch Buffy are not intelligent”.
It’s flawed logic. What if I were to say, all girls who want to marry Per Gessle are sad, pathetic people with no social lives? (which we know is not true– my cousin wants to marry Per, and I don’t think he’s pathetic).
Anarem said on May 26, 2003 02:33:
But answering Twilight Ghost’s question now...
A lot of people on this forum are pretty cool. There are a few members who make me roll my eyes in exasperation because I think they’re twits, but all in all, it’s never boring when I come here. Some of the flame wars can be pretty entertaining to read, but cheap name-calling and lame topics are a bit tiring.
Twilight-Ghost said on May 26, 2003 16:09:
Thanks Alfonsette =)
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I think most of the people here are pretty cool. There are people who have disagreed with me, but that’s alright as long as they have good reasons and no name calling.
Believe me, I may seem opinionated but if I’m wrong I could admit it.
I guess there are some people who have disappoint me as well - maybe less than 2 people ;) but that’s okay, I don’t think I could ever hate anybody from this forum, maybe disappointed but not hate.
Shane said on May 26, 2003 18:10:
I think people sometimes are rude because it is easy when chatting online. If you have to sit across the table from that person tomorrow, you tend to watch what you say to their face, but when we never see each other face to face, we are less sensative about that person’s feelings.
I agree with others - it is okay to disagree with others, but everyone should show respect and not be rude.....
antz said on May 27, 2003 01:08:
@Shane: Bravo!
I live by the golden rule: treat others as you would like to be treated.
Unfortunately, not everyone lives by this rule.
Everyone has the right to disagree with someones view, but I think they should ask themselves, if they really need to speak out against that person/their view, what will it prove? What will it accomplish?
I enjoy it here at TDR, there are times I would like to get more involved and give my view, but even in this virtual world I am still shy and I do not want to get flamed for giving my opinion.
Oh well ...this is a start I guess.
I’ll end with a Roxette-ism:
Love is all...
LittleSpooky said on May 27, 2003 02:45:
Just to chime in:
10 to 1, I have disappointed just about everyone here.
*shrugs*
ixtlaner said on June 9, 2003 23:49:
Nope, you haven’t... :)
I don’t remember ever being disappoited by someone here. Or maybe I’ve forgotten the case(s). But it would’ve been natural - I mean: do we know each other so well so we know what to expect from each other? I don’t think so. I don’t even know my closest friends that well. In a way, that’s where disappointments come from, IMHO. And from misunderstandings too.
Peace! :)
derek said on June 10, 2003 19:29:
im not dissappointed .im new to this and you are new to me.i can only give my opinion to the best of my knowledge at that moment. and if anything is said wrongly then its up to that person to ask “what do you mean”instead of taking affence and being insulting many things can be said and miss-understood. if you dont understand then ask again and try to remain patient and friendly ok some times it doesnt work but loosing your cool doesnt help either.i hope that you are not dissappointed in my answer if you are then @#$5&***** (just joking)
TinyBubbles said on June 10, 2003 22:30:
Lols Storm. Is it cuz nobody posted in ’once upon the time 2’? But i mean, c’mon, Per and Rolf in an aquarium of beer?
zeeshan said on June 11, 2003 06:43:
No offend storm but you have no reason to be disappointed. Posting PART 2 of a rather still fresh topic was a BAD IDEA.
Why do you expect people to show the same interest to the sequel of something which went on for days and days and days?? The original thread “died” what made you think that the new one is gona make any difference?
I really hope that I AM NOT offending you but when I actually read the second part, the only thing which came to my mind was “BAD IDEA! IT IS GONA BE ONE BIG FLOP”.
Oh also, flop or no flop.. we don’t post to recieve hundreds of replies. You editted the thread taking out all of your posts which was ANOTHER bad idea. Why are you taking this thing personally? :) C’mon mann.. post something something NEW.. refreshing if not all that then don’t post anything OLD :)
I started a thread “I AM IN LOVE”, not because I WANTED to get response or something... I just wanted to share it with my friends that is all.
STOP DISAPPOINTING YOURSELF my friend.
Cheers,
Z
zeeshan said on May 24, 2003 15:26:
oh boy! oh boy!!! Yeah loads of times! but hey it is life1