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In a time of need
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LittleSpooky said on December 12, 2002 05:05:
Not sure where exactly this one’s s’posed to go, so I’ll try here. And if it gets moved, I’ll go find it and remember for the future ;o)
Many thoughts are turning towards Ms. Fredriksson during her time of crisis. Mine have as well. You have a long road ahead of you, of which I know you are aware. Never give up the good fight. And a good fight it is. When it seems like you can’t go on anymore, when you’re sick of the treatments, sick of the side-effects, and just plain sick of it all, please remember this: Look at your family. The love of your family will get you through this.
To young Mistress Josephin and young Master Oscar: You both have a journey ahead of you full of confusion and fear. It won’t be easy, and there will be times when you won’t understand what’s going on with your mother at all. But remember, she’s fighting not only for herself, but for you and your father as well.
Mr. Bolyos: You have one of the most difficult tasks of this all. Not only do you need to be there for your wife and children, but you need to be there for yourself as well. While this sounds strange, it is not. Your sanity, your emotions will be torn to shreds during all of this. You will no doubt feel guilty for wanting some down-time away from it all, and that’s okay. To be honest, one of the most difficult phases is over: The surgery.
However, this is a difficult time as well, because the treatments will make her ill, sap her strength and yours at times. And at times, when you wonder if it’s all worth it, the answer will be: Yes. For you, for your wife, for your children. The answer is yes.
For those wondering, I speak from personal experience. My grandmother was diagnosed Christmas 1994 with pancreatic cancer. After numerous tests, it was determined that she’d had cancer for a better part of 5 - 7 years and we didn’t know. Unfortunately, it was inoperable. Grandma wasn’t expected to make it after the start of 1995. She finally succumbed in September of 1995. She fought that long to make sure that my brother and I would be okay. While I miss her every day, I know that she is in a much better place and that the love of her life, my grandfather, is with her.
I’m not sharing this to be a doomsayer, I’m sharing because WE ALL need to know that we are not alone. And most importantly, Mr. Bolyos, Ms. Fredriksson, and the children need to know that THEY ARE NOT ALONE.
I’ve said my peace.
LittleSpooky said on December 13, 2002 03:24:
mon-ami: You’re welcome. Although I don’t know how I did but if you do feel better, you’re welcome.
mon-ami said on December 13, 2002 15:25:
well, every title , report or message , that express the same feelings that i have now , show me i am not alone , and it makes me feel less sad. specially when i read a message which i know that will make marie stronger if she reads it.
NigelBarnes said on December 13, 2002 21:48:
Little Spooky - your comments envoke many thoughts.
We all started the new millenium with much hope but my father was disgnosed with cancer of the gullet within 2 months. Chemotherapy left much sickness and had to be finished, removal of the gullet followed and our hopes were raised when he came out of hospital still weak and we let our defences down. The last time I talked with him.
Within a few days the join had failed and back to hospital - sedated and we were not sure if he knew we were there or not. A few days later and he died - very difficult for all - my mother, myself and my 2 sons and the rest of the family.
Marie and family have a very difficult time and it will be a rollercoaster of emotions - I hope that all will end well. Having 2 children myself heightened the feelings.
As Dad said on that last conversation - life must go on - I agree but it’s hard and cruel at times.
Thoughts with all especially Marie.
sweet_stalker57 said on December 13, 2002 22:59:
I wouldn’t wish chemo on a child killer.
if they said I needed it, “tough titty!!!” and just soldier on as long as possible.
zaine said on December 14, 2002 14:15:
I only bacame a rox fan again in september time. by then, marie was already ill and there was a lot of sadness. But I wasn’t around to feel the confusion. Now this has happened I feel very sad although not to the extent you guys must be feeling. This isn’t sounding like I want it to. erm, basically, I haven’t had the full roxette experience. I am only hearing Per on the net and in interviews because marie is ill. This sounds real selfish, but I want her to pull through so i CAN get the rox experience. Of course I am sad that a human being, especially one of my idols is going through this, and I hope she is ok soon, but I really want to experience roxette fully. Is this wrong to feel?
LittleSpooky said on December 14, 2002 18:14:
Zaine: It’s never wrong to feel. It may be different than what everyone else feels, but you are different than anyone else to begin with. While some may question your motivation for becoming a Rox-fan all over again (timing. You becoming a fan all over again at the time of Ms. Fredriksson’s illness), I do not. See, I think you’ve always been a fan, however like myself, had found other music to be a fan of.
I’ll be willing to bet that when you heard about Ms. Fredriksson’s illness, it was like running into a brick wall at 100kph and exploding into about a million pieces. I think we all felt that way from moment one. And I know that there are others out there who feel in a similar fashion, but have had doubts. And I’ll share something else with you: I would like a chance to see them live and have the “Rox-Experience” too.
But, I also know that sometimes, it’s just not possible.
zaine said on December 15, 2002 12:47:
the weird thing for me is even though I don’t know as much about Marie as I do of Per, my head still exploded when I heard! Per has been in interviews without marie so I found out more about him. The only stuff i heard of marie is from the dvd. Also because Per is so cute, I wanted to find out more about him!!!
I remember when I was a little kid, I used to listen to roxette cos of my dad. I remember hearing Sleeping in my car and didn’t listen to any of the lyrics because I thought it was so funny that i was inmthe car when I heard it!!! The next one I heard was crashing guitars. When i heard this, I thought that Roxette were completely insane! Especially him! why would anyone want to smash in their guitar? (at the time, i worshipped my guitar!) But now I grown up a bit, I can appreciate all of their songs and not just the ones with cool solos in! So yeah, I have always been a fan i guess.
anyway, I hope marie pulls through this. she has too many people that love and care for her, and Per would most probably break down if she were to leave him. I only wish there was something worth while i could do or say. And the uk media gives us next to no news about here. EMI uk: you’re crap. peace out, suzanne
NigelBarnes said on December 16, 2002 19:34:
Zaine
To be fair to the UK media they have had some reports (even the local ’Daily’ in the westcountry). EMI we all have ours views on but clearly they’ve made some interesting decisions i.e. Mariah Carey and now Robbie W - probably focussing on a very few has/will cost them but the UK music scene is very fickle isn’t it.
Good to see you’ve recently become converted and here’s hoping the best for all.
LittleSpooky said on December 12, 2002 18:58:
Just a Post Script:
On an even lower note in my life, I just discovered that one of my older step-brothers has cancer as well. Unfortunately, his is inoperable. I don’t have many details, all I know right now is he took off to go visit his “baby brother” in North Carolina a few days ago (just to get away from everything). He leaves behind a wife and a son.