As i breathe out, I realize that I’m knee-deep in a situation that it’s about to have disastrous consequences. Buggery bollocks - where to start?

So December 2004 my stepfather passed away - and I thought it was the universe’ solution to years of abuse from him towards me & my mother. (Please note he died of natural causes - no fowlplay I swear! LOL! Was a heart attack - he did the dirty work himself!!) After numerous therapy sessions I managed to heal those emotional wounds inflicted by this man. Atleast this man left mom with enough to be financially stable for years to come.

Anyways mom eventually started dating this guy she met on the internet... it seemed like a beautiful partnership however this man lived in Jhb - about 1200km from Cape Town. Mom went to visit him regularly - flying up & down at her own cost. It was during this period that this man got fired from his job - would love to know why tho... He never got another job again but he managed to buy a new car...?

So in August last year the two of them decided to meet halfway for a bit of a holiday... what was meant to be a week turned into a month. The two of them eventually returned home WITH his brother. It was a relatively pleasant visit. The three of them then left for the place where they had holiday AGAIN - which happened to be where the brother stayed. One thing that DID bother me was that Mom payed for EVERYTHING as her boyfriend didn’t have an income and i don’t think that the brother was much more that a hobo (he looks the part; hobo = begger). It was during this period that mom witnessed a different side of this man - he wasn’t all that pleasant afterall.

When they eventually returned to Cape Town I got the news that they were planning on setting up a business there (the place they just returend from). I thought that this would be a good start for her and a wise way to grow her assists even further!

BUT

During this period I was starting to set things up for myself - business wise; and i required my mom’s advice, attention and help. This ’man’ for some reason felt threatend by my pressense and communication within the house became few. I got extremely anoid by the fact that him & his brother expected to be treated like ’guests’ - Mom & myself were expected to do everything for these two grown men - plus i had to simply keep my mouth shut everytime I see my mother taking out her purse. It also came to my attention that she’s paying for this guy’s car + his insurance; no wait - she must have been paying for everything as both these men didn’t have jobs.

As a side note I need to mention that this was a very exciting time for me - besides getting my own business running I was also getting ready for Nikos’ (vaxjoe on TDR) visit.

So the night before Nikos arrived my nerves was finished and I was exhuasted with all the preparations ect... (Now this is where the story becomes difficult to write as it’s very raw still - it’s been exactly three months). I went to mom and asked her if I could have a word with her in private- the ’boyfriend’ took issue with this... now with my previous experience of mom’s abusive relationships, i decided that I WILL not allow the past to repeat itself - and I insisted that I speak to her. I eventually stormed out of the house in rage & went to my sister & her husbands place accross the road. I had a smoke there and decided that I will NOT allow this man to have his way so I went back - together with my brother in-law
and gave the boyfriend the entire contents of my brain (in true purplemedusa style). He grabbed my mother & pulled her into the bedroom.

The next morning I realized that the three of them left the house early - phone my therapist and she managed to calm me down and told me that it was a good thing that I addressed the issues and that she was also concerned about mom’s new relationship - mom has told her things that had her extremely worried. Anyways got dressed & bought some smokes - as I returned home I saw that they were back... I still remember saying to myself that it was the day Nikos arrives and that I should take a more causious approach should there be any negativity. Truth be told I’ve blocked out the few minutes that followed - I just remember this man throwing me around, pinning me on the bed & hitting me repeatedly... while my mother was outside. God this is really painfull to recall and I eventually escaped and my close buddy took me to the airport to pick up Nikos. God was meeting Nikos like a fairytale romance!!

We got home & stayed in my room untill they left three days later (only coming out if we needed the bathroom - in all honesty this would have been the case anyways).

BIG MISTAKE; I never went to the police to report this extreme case of violence against me.

Mom eventually set her business up and (as i found out later) gave this man shares in it too! But everytime mom would phone she would mention that thngs aren’t going well - a couple of time she would come back to Cape Town just to get away from the shit; she told me recently that the relationship is more abusive than her previous marrage (which i thoguht couldn’t get any worse).

But this is the story now... for the last two/three weeks mom’s been saying that she’s planning to come back to Cape Town -> she would even set dates, make business appointments etc. and then simply not pitch. She phoned tonight and I asked her what the hell was going on - her response was that this man is threatening her & blackmailing her - and she’s also to scarred to leave her investments (ie. the business) unattended.

I said to her if i don’t get a phone call from her by tomorrow 12am about a solution, I will drive up there, find the place where she’s staying and get a police interdict against these two men... yet, I feel so helpless right now... this is an utter mess! And without being dramatic, I fear for her life!!!

PS. Well just wanted to get this out of my system - I must also apologize to my friends here that I’ve been neglected recently ... I love you all and think of you on a daily basis - it’s just that I’m busy taking on day at a time and don’t always get to the things I really want to do!! Hope you understand!!