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Do you want to stay single all your life?
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maiden said on November 26, 2005 12:17:
I had this certain concern in my life right now if I want to stay single all my life. I’m too busy in my work right now that looking for a lifetime partner seems to be a too distant possibility. So tell me guys what do you think?What age do you think a person should get married?
coyboyusa said on November 26, 2005 13:23:
i used to think i’d want to be single forever but good relationships are alot better, you don’t necesairly have to get married to love and be in love with someone
TinyBubbles said on November 26, 2005 13:43:
If i had a good relationship i’d want to marry him forsure.
I dont think there is a right or wrong age to get married.
maiden said on November 26, 2005 13:56:
I agree with you guys that sometimes marriage is not an assurance of lifetime togetherness..but I think its needed just in case you had kids.Some people even get married at a very late age just for companionship in their retiring days.
rox-kuryliw said on November 26, 2005 16:08:
im gay , so to find a decent faithful gay man , is like trying to find a decent stright man, not very easy lol.
LittleSpooky said on November 26, 2005 16:39:
I don’t want to... but it looks like it will be that way for me.
ally77 said on November 26, 2005 19:29:
I am happy single... for now, I think I am too selfish to share with a man or a woman!
Debora said on November 26, 2005 20:04:
I don’t want to stay single all my life, if I find the right person I’d like to get married and have a family, a big one. But I think that you don’t have to get married just because you are afraid of stay single, I know some people that did it and they aren’t happy.
maiden said on November 27, 2005 02:05:
I like to have children of my own, so here’s another question, is it okay to raise a child without a husband beside you or raising a child single-handedly?
I think you’ve got a point there Debora!
rox-kuryliw said on November 27, 2005 03:19:
maiden i have a mum and dad, and could of done with out the dad BIG style , but you will get both sides of any question i guess.
ally77 said on November 27, 2005 06:13:
I would like to think I’ll a child of my own one day and maybe still be single... I have enough love and attention to give to a child, and I know I would make a good mum!
LittleSpooky said on November 27, 2005 07:21:
I’m screwed up enough... I’d ROYALLY screw up any child I bring into this world.
Debora said on November 27, 2005 18:03:
I don’t think it is wrong to raise a child alone, without a husband, i have thought about it, but nowadays I think that there are many children who haven’t got a family so adopt a child is an option and I’m thinking about it... but it’s too difficult here to adopt a child being single...
ThePopHits said on November 27, 2005 18:35:
All I know is I never want to have any children. I couldn´t take care of them anyway.
DaminehGessle said on November 27, 2005 20:11:
Now I can feel my heart beat in my mouth and I can hear it! This is the question I’ve been asking myself over and over again and just when I thought I was ready to let it go, it’s all coming back to me now. I believe some people are born to die single :(.
ally77 said on November 28, 2005 07:39:
Well I often think I take after my godmother. She is now 76 years old and has been single all her life, but she is one of the happiest people I know. Dedicating most of her life to looking after children as a nurse and then ward sister until she retired. That’s how she met my mum she was a student nurse in the 50’s on the childrens ward where my mum was a paitent at just 5 years old, and they never lost touch! :) she is a wonderful person and I think I caught my travel bug off he, she travels alone just like I do and she lets nothing hold her back!
@ Debora, Adoption is a great option, something I have thought of since I was 16 years old.... pushing 30 now!!! Here in the UK it’s not hard for a single person to adopt they welcome it, but there is also adoption from abroad as well!
TinyBubbles said on November 28, 2005 13:52:
I’m with you Ally!! Even if i never get married i still desperately want to be a mom :)
Majdy said on November 28, 2005 13:53:
I used to think that marriage it;sall about paperwork, sign this and that.... but now i tried to see that in romantic way.... isn’t that nice to say “I do?”
harriej said on November 28, 2005 21:37:
Maybe I am a bit old-fashioned, but it i think it is best for a child if it has both a dad and a mum (if they both are loving and caring parents off course).
Besides that, it is possible to raise a child alone, but it is important for a child to get enough love and affection, so if you want to raise a child alone, make sure you are there for him/her.
Majdy said on November 28, 2005 21:42:
I agree. I don’t say that single parent can’t raise their kid alone, but I met several people that wish that they have complete parents. so, we don’t want our kid to wish that, right?
but if we still want to stay single and raise kid, we have to make sure that we can do BOTH father and mother’s job, so the kid will always feel complete. but hey, it’sdifferent to every people.
silverROSES said on November 29, 2005 10:35:
this topic Is quite broader than what I’ve thought!
Just think of this !!!!!!!!!!!
I grew up without a father, He died when I was about 2 years old. Going back to those years during my childood it was really difficult .
I still remember those times when I cried and I wished that I also have a father to fetch me from school just like my classmates.
That I wish that I also have father to buy me toys , dolls or any presence to buy your favourite item just like what i see from my neigbors were in their father were the one to buy them those.
That I wish I have a father to fix the house and I’m going to help him.
That I wish I have a father to wrestled or play with
me. That we go to mall, church together, and eat together..
There are still a lot of wishes that I wish I did If Only I have a father.
Though we have our mother with us It still feel liike we live alone on our own. She so busy with her work that she find no time for us... But i do understand the situation that we had thats why I cant’ complain.
Even now!when I see a school age child with thier father beside walking together after fetching from school I still feel envy! I don’t know why? And I always asked god why?
BUt still you can’t have to have the feeling of emptiness in yourself that you know no one can ever fill...................
It’s like a part of your childhood have been stollen away from you!!!
There are still a lot that I wanted to share but I guess it’s enough!!
So if you still wish to raise a fatherless child I just wish that your child will not feel what I have felt and will experience those!!!!!!
That even you are already been a good or best mom in the world there are still tasks that only a father can give or do!!
But all I’m referring here is an Example of having a good and responsible father!
Coz if your going a father like mine many people say that it was much better for him that he died! He was a big burden to my mom!!!!!
So still it’s up to you!
rox-kuryliw said on November 29, 2005 11:08:
Majdy is really disagree. i have a dad, and my family would have been so better of without him, and i know alot of friends who have horrid fathers and most dont speak to them now. i just think you need one good parent who loves you. The rest are greedy lol.
maiden said on November 29, 2005 11:09:
You know what I think? If any children gets all the care that they need then it won’t matter if they had a mom or a dad. They would not even ask where one of them is as long as they are satisfied with what they have.
Silver Roses, I think you’re raised nicely by your mom even without a father. Are you wondering what it would be like to have a father?
Littlespooky, don’t be to harsh on yourself, you have this tendency to bring yourself down. If that’s how you see yourself , what would you expect us to say about you?
silverROSES said on November 29, 2005 11:28:
yes maybe! I was raised better but would you steal that away from your child that chance of having a father.
And what if that same question is asked to you by your child!
BUt of course Iam referring to a responsible one!!!!!!!!! bUt if he’s not it’s better not to have one!!
or shall I say that it’s better to say that
I wish I was never been born at all!!!!!!
maiden: Do you have a father with you?
TinyBubbles said on November 29, 2005 13:53:
But i could adopt a child who doesn’t have ANY parents. So then he’d have atleast a mommy :)
silverROSES said on November 29, 2005 14:45:
Going back to the original Question !!
Of course I want to stay single right in this stage of my life there’s still a lot of things I wanted to enjoy!!I don’t like commitments IT’s just a silly peace of paper!
It’s up to you If you love somebody then that commitments come’s from the heart you don’t have to push yourself to marry somebody because of your fear of being alone. Remember that! That your decission will change the course of your life.
maybe we have our plans in our life but GOD has a much better plan! We may go in circumstances like this but he’s just trying to test us if we are going stand firm. Maybe trouble/problem is seem far a way from us and the stillness of our life brings boredom.
Maybe you are just staying so focus with your life!
I think now a days it’s hard to find a man who is a husband material!!!!!
Majdy said on November 29, 2005 14:57:
@roxkurilyw :
well... actually it doesn’t matter to me to see single parent raising kid. it’s better only one raising them, then having both but they don’t act like REAL parents (for example abuse parents, etc)
but being single parents has more responsibility, because we also need to do not only one parent’s (wheter is father or mother) task, but TWO parents. for example, we have to provide our kids, but at the same time we have to give them attention, love, etc...
so, if we’re not ready to give all of those at the same time, I think we shouldwait.
but, if we’re ready to have a very HUGE responsibility I must say go for it.
to be honest, I was proud to hear that many young people already consider to adopt child. I think it’s so noble. just make sure when you’re gonna do that, you’re are absolutely ready.
maiden said on November 30, 2005 09:03:
Follow-up question: Do you really like to raise a child in the case of adoption over having a child of your own, your own flesh and blood?
Don’t get me wrong I have nothing against adoption but for me it would be much better to have one since you’re already going to take on some responsibility of raising a child.
At least if its your very own you will know what genes is running in their blood. What if you adopted someone who has a schizophrenic ( mental illness) gene in them?
SilverRoses: Both my parents is still with me..U know with that question you asked me and with the things you said about not having a father, I realized how I took my father for granted. You made me think how lucky I am that I grew up with both of them still alive.
But I agree with those who said that if a father would not take the responsibility of being a father then why have one at all?
LittleSpooky said on November 30, 2005 09:29:
Silver: Just so you know, I did have a father, but he was NEVER there for me during my childhood. Do I wish he was? HELL NO! Both my parents were 17 when I was conceived, 18 when I was born (I was about a month and a half past term, so almost 19). My first true memory of my parents is of them fighting. My mom on one side of the apartment, my dad on the other, screaming at each other for whatever reason. I know I was really young because the only thing that was relatively “eye-level” to me was a box. And the god awful carpet that was popular in the 70s (that nasty green).
When I started school, did it bother me that my dad wasn’t there? Not in the slightest. By that time, my dad had been out of the picture for a couple of years. I did have a grandfather however. During that time, though, my grandparents were going through AA because my grandfather was an alcoholic. I can say with pride that ALL booze (beer included) was out of the house before I was in the 4th grade.
Now I’ve had “paternal role models” in my life, including now, and you know... I’m better for my grandfather and my step-dad being in my life than my dad. My dad is still rather immature and the woman he’s married to makes life rather difficult for me and my brother. My brother has a wife and 2 kids and he’s trying to build a relationship with our father, with minimal success. My dad will refuse to do things with my brother because our step-mom doesn’t “feel good” or doesn’t “want” to go out and do things.
Rather than my dad saying: “You know, this is my son and I want to spend some time with him” (they live about 1 hour apart and there’s no direct route between Roy, Utah and Tooele, Utah without driving right through the Great Salt Lake and none of our cars have water wings), he “bows” to her “wishes and whines”. I don’t want to be around her because after a while, she starts to complain about the latest aches and pains. Folks, I’m 31 years old. I have practically no cartilege in my left knee, I have a dry socket in my left shoulder, but when it comes to my neices, you’ll see me on the floor on my hands and knees playing with them, or holding them above my head playing “airplane”. They’re 5 and 3 (soon to be 6 and 4).
In the long run... I honestly believe I turned out better for not having my dad around.
As for raising kids: I know in the United States (and it does vary from state to state) that a single person is placed WAY DOWN on the list of prospective adopting parents. Gay people would probably have better “chances” adopting a kid than a single mother / father. Why? Lack of stability in the home. Especially if they have a “time consuming job”. IF.. and this is a HUGE IF... I wanted to have a kid now... I would go to a sperm bank and go that route. But ya know... I don’t have the money, and I don’t have the desire.
Maiden: You took issue with the way I described myself and the thoughts on raising a child. Well, when you have depression that runs STRONGLY through the family, as well as cancer, diabetes, and a passle of other “diseases”, do you honestly think I’m that far out of my assessment? I don’t. I wouldn’t want to pass on the genetics in my family to a kid. They don’t deserve that. And I’m only thinking of just MY genetic material. I’m not even taking into consideration the OTHER half of the equation and the fun dysfunctions of that......
maiden said on November 30, 2005 09:40:
Liitlespooky : You took my comments the wrong way. To simplify things all I want to ask you is why you feel so forlorn, but after that story of your childhood now I know. Sorry if you thought that I’m antagonizing you, no I’m not.
silverROSES said on November 30, 2005 12:18:
to little spooky: I”M referring to a responsible father. Maybe not all father are like your father and in some cases it would be much better to grow up without a dad if he is not ready to take the responsibility.
Well in our case it was different. MY father was taken away from me , he died . To you! you have him, You have your biological father but the true meaning of fatherhood is what is lacking to him. So you can actually see the advantage of not having him at all coz you feel his useless. But what if he turns out to be like the father that I describe will you not feel lucky of having one.
To maiden: Thank god you realize how lucky you are you have both your parents.
well with your Question! I guess I’m too young to make up my mind with questions like that. I’m still in my 20’s I still have a lot things to do to make my life quite busy. I still don’t know the people I’m gonna met and the relationships I’m gonna build around them.
I don’t want to get married! Coz I don’twant to get pregnant! And I don’t want to deliver! Ouchh I can’t see myself experience those things experienced by a woman in labor and delivering a child . I don’t think I can do that.. NO! NO! NO! NO! WaY!
But I have an old maid aunt and she keep on telling us to get married.
BUt I don’t think we should get married just for the sake of having a child........Or companionship....
Be happy with what you do and be luky with what you have! After all life is what makes it! Just live your life as if it is your last day after all we don’t know when GOD gonna take our last breath.
Santi said on December 1, 2005 11:58:
I do not know if I want to stay single, but I do want to have some kid or two.
TinyBubbles said on December 1, 2005 13:38:
Ok fine i wont adopt i’ll just get pregnant :S
Sheeesh i’m getting confused now. Hard to know what is right and what is wrong when it comes to bringing children into the world best of times..
All i know is that married or single.. if i dont become a mommy i’ll feel very empty. And i cant change that fact.
LittleSpooky said on December 1, 2005 18:16:
Silver: In the 31 years I’ve been alive... he hasn’t been remotely CLOSE to being a good dad. In your little fantasy world... do you even THINK he might change? On his DEATH BED perhaps... but I don’t think so.
maiden said on December 2, 2005 12:28:
Whooa, there now, each of us are entitled to their own opinion.
Little spooky, silverRoses is talking about her father..not all father is like your father. She has what you call her “little fantasy” because in our culture father are supposed to be just like that, a real father.
My sentiments exactly tiny bubbles!
I want to meet your old maid aunt silverRoses.
silverROSES said on December 3, 2005 05:49:
To litle spooky: I do understand you! On what you feel about your father maybe i have this ” little fantasy” about having good father but my fantasies were directed towards a good father. Maybe not all father are the same...
Maybe some are right to be called as biological father!
my mom always told us it was much better that we did not have a father while growing for our life will be a great mess... he’s irresponsible too just like your dad...
Little spooky we still have in common I do have a stepfather And I love him too. And A granfather who loves me more than any of her grandchildren.
TO Maiden: I don’t think it would be a great idea for you, to meet my old maid aunt. She is very negative though she is a fighter.
She never had her own child but she raised my 3 elder sister. Actually I don’t like her. She always makes nasty comments about us. Well we still have to thank her anyway...
why do u want to meet her anyway?
maiden said on December 3, 2005 08:09:
SR, in that case never mind, she seems too strict. I wonder if I reached that stage when I will turn to be an old maid afterall.
All my friends back in college are all married now and they seem happy to me. I don’t visit them nowadays because sometimes I feel like an outsider around them and I just feel sad whenever that happens.
I have new friends right now, not my usual choice of friends, you know the age gap, but with them I just feel happy.
silverROSES said on December 3, 2005 08:52:
Actually she’s not strict, I just don’t understand her!
For as long you feel comfortable with them and your free to expreess yourself. That’s what counts!!!!!!!!!!!. They may not be your choice of friends because of the their age but remember there’e a certain part of our body that always stays young!
Sometimes it really hurts! To see all those people You used to share your time with are now on their own.
To maiden: why do you think they are happy for you?
You may have that certain emptiness right now but
Few people are lucky to reach your status.
chippy205 said on December 5, 2005 07:13:
@ maiden
about 70% teachers don’t get married. according to net survey:)
i’ advice you to find your soulmate ;)
maiden said on December 5, 2005 08:35:
I am happy with what I have!
Chippy205, how many respondents is in that survey? Based on the number of teachers and that is quite a lot, that I know almost all of them are married. And how is that related to me?
silverROSES said on December 5, 2005 12:08:
Bwa!ha!ha!ha!ha!ha!has!ha!ha!ha!ha!ha!
Maiden I think your destined to become an old maid!!!! lol
Bwa!ha!ha!ha!ha!ha!ha!ha!ha!ha!ha!
blackpearl said on December 5, 2005 16:00:
Well If haven’t found the man I wanted to marryW then I’d rather stay single!!! than to look for something to punch my head.....
Majdy said on December 5, 2005 22:47:
there’s something that I really againts from my culture that people MUST to get marry. so, when they’re 30’s (or more) and still stay single, people are starting to talk negative about them, sometimes people even said “you should never waste your time with too many consideration, now you see you didn’t get anything.” so many people that over 30 got married with anyone that asked them to marry eventhough there were no love, just so people can’t stop talking bad about them.
few years ago, i was still 22, then I met my hichschool friend who already married and has two kids and she said that I SHOULD get marry soon, because I was old. I almost said to her, you should not get marry THAT soon so you can still go to movies and have fun just like me.
(well, I don’t againts marriage either, in fact now I am with someone that i really want to spend my whole life with. but I just againts how some poeple think in my country)
Santi said on December 5, 2005 22:57:
Well Majdy, if everyone thinks like you that they should have no sex before marriage, maybe that’s why they say yes to the first who asks, because sex is a human need just like sleeping or eating. It’s a force of nature that can not be repressed without serious consequences! :DD
(all the sexual scandals in the clergy, that must be celibate... are related to this antinatural behaviour).
silverROSES said on December 6, 2005 06:13:
well Of course sex is need becuse wihout it , It would be an extinction of mankind........
I’ve been reading a lot of comments here!!!! and it sounds like man has a really bad reputation here!!!
What’s wrong with Adam now?!!!!!!!
maiden said on December 6, 2005 10:34:
Majdy, what is it in being in your 30’s and still is single? I mean, being in your 30’s is not that old, people in that age group is still enjoying their independence.
I for one is in my 30’s but being married at that age is really not my concern, what I am worrying about is reaching the age of 35 and above, coz that’s the age wherein women are already at a high risk for pregnancy. Somehow being married is related to that subject since in our country people will talk bad about you if you bear a child out of wedlock.
friendlystar_03 said on December 6, 2005 11:15:
hey! i just want to comment on the original topic...
about staying single throughout your life..
Datz not a problem... its ur own will and choice..
being single nowadays is not unusual..and i think its more happier than having a partner that used to be just ur pair for the sake of not neglecting yourself in our generation..
if i will answer the question now, of course it will be a big NO! But who knows? Time will tell ur destiny.. very soon...
To maiden: Don’t worry coz there’s still 5 years of searching...:-)kidding! Everything happens for a reason...So, if this side of your life is blurred at this point, see your sorroundings...Think of the people who really luvs and support you..like family and old/new friends! I think u will find true happiness on them... go hell with the guys that hurted u..for sure, the right guy for you just encounter a traffic from a distance..
take time..enjoi life...
friendlystar_03 said on December 6, 2005 11:28:
to maiden: enjoi life...
its not too late for everything.... there’s no deadline for anything esp for your happiness...
don’t put a deadline on ur part...life is beautiful...there are so many great things on earth..many..many..
Majdy said on December 6, 2005 21:37:
@ santi : what do u mean with your word “think like me” ? I am not saying that everyone has to wait until marry before they have sex (and I don’t againts people who wait until they got marry to do that either).
what i said above is what happen to my culture where people will talk negative about other people who didn’t get marry (and I am totally againts when people mind other business like that). or maybe I don’t explain that better since I have bad english so u miss understood?
Santi said on December 6, 2005 21:44:
I didn’t say what you mean I said. I said that if everyone in your country thinks as you do that herself or himself should not have sex before marrying, then that’s a huge reason for marrying.
And keeping it all in the same mindset, I suspect that if you don’t marry, other people that thinks like you said on the other thread that you would not have sex without marrying, well, most people tends to extrapolate their own thoughts to the rest, and so if you don’t marry is because you’re gay or lesbian. Otherwise you’d marry, because otherwise it’s not right to have sex, and everyone needs sex.
As I don’t think that in the country were you lived (which if I’m not mistaken is a muslim country) gays and lesbians can marry, then I assume that they assume that they should suspect of the ones that don’t marry, because I guess that like in many other muslim countries, homosexuality is a crime.
Hope I’m very wrong anyway! Assuming as much as I assumed :D
Majdy said on December 6, 2005 21:44:
@ maiden :
well, if you were 30’s and you still single in my country (at least in the place that I live), then u have to be strong so u can deal with all the negative thoughts that people will say that to you.
if I was still live in my country when iw as 30, and ppl start talking about me staying single I probably just shut my eat and not listen to them, but to some people it will be pressure and it will affect them so much.
but i hope that someday things will change. for example, long time ago many parents wanted their kids to get marry at very young age, but now many of them prefer to see their kids finish their college first, so I think things might change oneday.
silverROSES said on December 7, 2005 05:12:
Santi here’s what I understand form your comment about what majdy say!!!
first of all I don’t think that! that’ the way majdy think. Like the poeple around them...
And from what I understand from what u said It sounds like. The women will marry anyone who asked them because they wanna have sex.
sorry but I think! they marry someone without love because they don’t want to be alone when they get old or shall I say they don’t want to become an old maid.
maiden said on December 7, 2005 10:09:
Before things get out of hand here, having sex prior to marriage depends on the belief of the persons involved. If they think that it’s not right then respect it, they know what they are doing and they know the consequences.
Friendlystar 03, thank you for all those nice things you’ve said..it’s all true I have to admit, but you’ll come to that certain point in your life that you will start thinking about what lies ahead of you.
Santi said on December 7, 2005 10:27:
“And from what I understand from what u said It sounds like. The women will marry anyone who asked them because they wanna have sex.”
False, I never said that. I never said the “women”. And you misunderstood quite a lot of the rest.
I don’t mean it’s something conscious. Sex I hope we all agree it’s a human basic instinct. And it’s not just a matter of procreation. Therefore, in Majdy’s culture, marrying young is a matter of success, since you have access to it earlier, because it’s sinful to do it without.
You don’t even really have to think of sex as itself, because marriage has replaced that in the collective consciousness. Marriage has become “success”, “pleasure”, “comfort”, “love” and all that, and that is powered by the religious beliefs that sacralize that as something God wants and to live outside of it is sinful or is not pleasant.
The point is that marriage is not that, it is basically a contract. And in muslim societies is basically a disbalanced contract in which one of the parts has many more benefits (in Christian NOW is less, but some 30 years ago it came to be exactly the same). It’s interesting to point out that the rulers of organized religions are mostly men, so from that it follows that it looks like a very well conceived system of perpetuing men in the power and have free “slaves” in women.
But by controling the access of those things (like sex) most people wants, it has become a synonym of that “success”, “comfort”, “love” and all that. Unconsciously, for men and women.
silverROSES said on December 7, 2005 10:33:
Oh really!!You think I misunderstood what you say!! but try to read again about the first line or on the 2nd and let’s see what will it mean...
Santi said on December 7, 2005 10:51:
I didn’t imply it’s a conscious feeling and besides I did write “Herself” and “Himself”, so there it goes for what you are very wrong saying I talked about “women” :)
friendlystar_03 said on December 7, 2005 11:24:
Maiden, i agree with your thoughts that there are certain points on u and on us to think of what we will be sooner...later...
at your age, its really hard and maybe you keep on thinking on what we’l gonna happen to u in the future... well, its God’s will..I guess u will react if thats your own choice isn’t? as what i’ve said, u may find ur true happiness if you open ur heart to everything that sorrounds you...
a lifetime partner? he’s just stuck in a certain point.. and if he’s stucked there for a very long time, well it’s not destined for you to be happy with him... how about your friends? they are there for u...i think in the absence mr.right, friends will make you feel how gud life is...
do not worry with your situation as of now.. Enjoi wats already present.. and in the future, you have the free will to live wat u want...being single is not a problem.. be proud coz u are free from pain and headache...
silverROSES said on December 7, 2005 11:30:
hey friendlystar are you online!!!! I have my yahoo messenger can we talk!
Santi said on December 7, 2005 12:01:
Why don’t you quote me and explain what you think I meant for us all to know what you mean?
Besides, you will very seldom if ever catch me in some chauvinistic statement. That’s not my style, it’s not me, so stop looking for that, because it is just not going to happen! :D
Santi said on December 7, 2005 12:09:
@sR: Would you mind editing that for us all to avoid having to scroll right to read people’s opinion?
It’s not necessary so many “oo”.
silverROSES said on December 8, 2005 08:29:
no words have been contain!! but the thought I want to express have been explain!!!!!
hey maiden!!! miss u!! really!!!have fun!!!
just wanna asked something!!!
maiden said on December 8, 2005 11:44:
Hey guys it’s already christmas could we have a ceasefire here!!
I’m not lonely anymore friendlystar, in fact with the new friends I have I don’t even think of getting into a relationship right now.
As my brother keeps telling me, I can have what I want in God’s time.
silverROSES said on December 8, 2005 11:50:
ohhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
really maiden!!!! hope to see that in you!!
Majdy said on December 8, 2005 14:04:
@ santi : I never said that I will wait until I get marry before I have sex. maybe I just said that I don’t mind when people have to wait? ( let me check again).
Majdy said on December 8, 2005 14:07:
well, i just re-read my comments again. yep, I think people can assume that I’m the kind of person who will wait to have sex before marry, but it’s not what I meant.
i just thought that it’s sweet if u can share yourself with the person that you really love wheter you’re marry or not. it will be even great if that one person will always be with you for the rest of your life.
that;s what I meant :)
friendlystar_03 said on December 9, 2005 05:59:
datz great maiden! i luv to hear dat from you...
i think your new friends shows luv and concern for u..and make you happy and enjoy ur present life..
I think they are great.! Just like my friends! dey make me feel secure, happy and be able to express whatever i want!!
friends are really gems!!!
tell me about ur friends if u wnt to..
friends are precious to me datz y..
but.....are you sure 100% ok now...?lolz!!
Santi said on December 9, 2005 14:16:
So respect yourself (control yourself) and us and avoid us from having to scroll right, please.
friendlystar_03 said on December 11, 2005 10:44:
@ santi..respect begets respect..:-)
love urself for u to respect other people..;-)
Santi said on December 11, 2005 17:46:
Next page, finally normal sized.
Let’s go on with who wants to marry and who doesn’t.
Debora said on December 11, 2005 19:18:
Finally normal size!!!
I don’t give my opinion so often but this is an interesting topic.
silverROSES said on December 12, 2005 10:28:
DEBORAH!
I think you can relate yourself in this topic right! :D
i think You and maiden had a lot of things in common!
Majdy said on December 12, 2005 14:46:
I am gonna get marry in few weeks *blush*
anyone wanna come in my bachelorette party?
(just kidding :) my bf won’t like that :D )
kachina008 said on December 12, 2005 16:56:
majdy ur bf wouldnt like that??? a hen party is tradition!! :P
gratz by the way ;)
silverROSES said on December 13, 2005 12:47:
majdy! are you serious! well congrats anyway! Just send me an invitation! JOKE!:DDDD
Majdy said on December 13, 2005 14:28:
you’re right, kachina. it’s tradition. but I am new in USA and I don’t know where to find male stripper :D
TinyBubbles said on December 13, 2005 14:32:
HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA. *imagining majdy with a male stripper*
Look in the yellow pages ;)
maiden said on December 14, 2005 12:08:
Thanks for that Santi!
Hey silverRoses, majdy is already getting married (by the way I’m happy for you madjy!).
Now what are you saying about madjy and I having in common?
xuxa said on December 14, 2005 13:43:
Marriage is not a priority for me. Me and my bf we are together now almost 7 years, and we are living together since 3 years ago.
In my heart I feel that I am married, that’s what it is important for me.
It’s not the marriage that makes people stay together. What it reallly matters is the respect, love , confidence...
Majdy said on December 14, 2005 20:28:
@ maiden : nope, I am not married yet. hopefully my fiance won’t change his mind :)
*looking the yellow page for stripper number*
silverROSES said on December 15, 2005 04:36:
@ maiden Nope not majdy! deborah! take a look,
By the maiden thanks a lot I hope I can give you a better gift, but got run out of money!
maiden said on December 18, 2005 14:06:
Oopps sorry for that my mistake, it is really deborah not madjy! I envy you guys you’ve got someone who cares for you aside from your family and friends that is.
It’s okay silverRoses, you’re standing up for me is enough!
Jud (moderator) said on November 26, 2005 12:22:
i don’t think there’s an age to get married, just when you feel the time is right for it. Actually, I don’t think you NEED to get married at all, you can have a partner for years and still not be married.. love is what counts, not what a paper (and a priest?) say ;)
For me the only reason to get married is to enjoy the benefits/rights a couple gets because of this signed paper: social insurance, taxes bla bla.
So.. just let love get to you first, then you can think of it :P