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What should I do?? Girls might know better.
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zeeshan said on January 27, 2003 00:09:
Hi all,
mmmmm where should I start from? I don’t know if you would believe me or not but I know a lot of girls who want me in their life ok? I don’t know why but most of the girls who were my friends later on fell in love with me. This might sound very stupid or err.. I don’t know a bit weird but I am telling the truth. And you know what? I always ran away from them. I mean.. I never said YES to any of them or you know ... had a “girlfriend” because I have been waiting 1for someone to come and..... you know..... like someone who could make me feel or who could make me smile when I even think of her. So finally I met this girl. She has the thing which I always....always wanted. She is INNOCENT and she is HONEST, she doesn’t flirts around and she never had any boyfriend!!!!!!!!!!!!
I don’t know if I love her or not cuz LOVE takes time to mature and develop so I think I like her a lot and more than any other girl in my whole darn life.
All is fine up until now right? so here is the list of the problems,
- I don’t get to talk to her as her phone connection is down. 1
- Her father has the cell all the time and so we hardly get a chance to talk.
- I am her ONLY friend and I mean ONLY friend.
- She considers me as very good friend who she misses all the time.
- SHe likes to talk to me.
- She regrets she doesn’t have any female friend like me.
- She is STUPID too (she stands on the top of the height of innocense) so it is hard to convey anything to her.
- She is very pretty and I am no Brad Pitt. I mean I don’t look bad according to Pakistan’s standards but all I have to offer is one very devoted heart. Not enough money right now cuz I am shaping my career and it just started and the future seems to be very bright but not just right now.
- I don’t know if she likes me or not. I mean she does like me but it is like I like pizza and whole loads of stuff but u know.. I mean “LIKING” in some other sense. You know where u have some special feelings?
- I am tooooooooooo shy.
- I am too scared of loosing her (well u know some girls get pissed off when u tell them that u like ’em)
- Again I am too shy and I feel nervous.
Above are some of the biggest problems I have in this VERY FIRST case where I, “Zeeshan” like a girl a lot!!
So, Rox fans.... I want some help. I don’t have much friends cuz I don’t get the time for that and I also had a bad experience making friends once so .. I don’t want to have loads of friends around me now.. SO, you can say that I am all alone. A few people know but they tell me that my case is very complicated and I AM WELL AWARE OF THAT. The problem is I still have some hope. Girls here might have a better solution for me. I am not saying that GUYS can’t do it. But... I want to know what a girl has to say on this???
Please allow me to take this opportunity to request some people here not to make fun outa this situation. I am serious and I want some serious help. Hope someone out there understands me and I also hope someone will reply.
Thanks,
Zeeshan.
LittleSpooky said on January 27, 2003 06:45:
*hops up next to Zee*
Hoo boy. Ya know, I’m so screwed up, I’m gonna leave this alone. All I can tell you is that you’ll never know if you don’t risk it and ask. But there’s that Catch 22 (American saying of: You’ll never know unless you ask, but if you ask, you might lose a friend)... A damned if you do, damned if you don’t.
Good luck Zee.
carmie said on February 9, 2003 11:13:
man,................
if i were u id do what i did,
both get verry drunk and everything sorts its self out.
wish i could help
sound hard
best wishes man
zeeshan said on February 9, 2003 11:22:
Guess I am still confused! geee!!! I AM NOT IN CONTACT WITH HER!!! :(
The prob remains the same or yet getting worst!
Zee
Aaso said on February 9, 2003 12:44:
You have to be slow. Don’t be so exited. You will find that time solves every thing.
zeeshan said on February 9, 2003 15:13:
Yeah.. that is all I am doing. Letting time decide what happens next. May God be with me and thousands like me :)
Zee
vaxjoe said on February 9, 2003 15:21:
i hate to break all this “take it slow” romantic atmosphere but when 2 ppl are in love theres no slow and fast...its just passion and lust and being together all the time :p
Aaso said on February 9, 2003 15:40:
So... *romantic atmosphere* ...
what that you are talking about is lust not love. Didn’t you see that he told the girl is so shy and she has no other friends...
**She is STUPID too (she stands on the top of the height of innocense) so it is hard to convey anything to her.**
So you could guess what I’m telling him ir the only way.
You gotta be SLOW! man
vaxjoe said on February 9, 2003 15:46:
aaso:my opinion - ur opinion theres no right or wrong just personal experience
zaine said on February 9, 2003 18:25:
hehe, I sound so much like your girl, and yet so much like you! I feel exactly the same!!! I bet you she’s feeling exactly the same way as you are. Don’t you wish that love sorted itself out like it does in films?!?!?
Aaso said on February 9, 2003 18:42:
2 vaxjoe : yes we can not say what is wrong and what is right. It depends on situation. And individual experiences .
zeeshan said on February 10, 2003 21:37:
@Vax: Brother, I wish I could do what you are trying to say. Thanks for the opinion though!!!!! This helps boost my confidence.
@Zaine: Do you really think so??? Do you?? I can only WISHHHHHHH about that.. I mean Sana (her name) feeling the same. I have never, EVER felt so helpless in my life!! This is really miserable you know.. very miserable.
@Aaso: Yes.. she is too shy and stupid (that is exactly what I like abt her. Does this means I am stupid too?? :) )
Santi said on February 10, 2003 22:12:
There was a philosopher who used to say that love is a state of transitory stupidity.
Aaso said on February 10, 2003 22:21:
and who was this philosofer?? can you plz tell...lol
Could he/she be one of TDR s...
Santi said on February 11, 2003 17:52:
The philosopher is not me if you’re thinking that :D And you can agree or disagree :p
He was a Spanish philosopher pretty famous in Spain and Latin America whose name was José Ortega y Gasset. I didn’t invent that sentence :D
I used to have a book of his called “Estudios sobre el amor” (Studies on love). I don’t have it anymore, I guess someone borrowed it and liked it too much :-/
Markuz said on January 27, 2003 05:36:
hey zee...
Well, I think the main problem is that both of you seem to be very very shy. The typical answer to this would be go and talk to her, tell her how you feel. WRONG.
Before you do that, find out if she REALLY is in love with you too. Otherwise, it’s going to be a really akward situation for both of you and you’ll get hurt badly. Do not confuse a very special friendship with love. Because if she is not in love with you, it’s quite likely you’ll lose her. It’s very hard to continue being friends with someone who has declared his/her love to you.
So, if she really likes you, then problem solved! On the other hand, if she doesn’t love you and you don’t tell her anything about your feelings, well then again: it’s quite likely you’ll lose her. Why? Because your heart will ache more than you can take; being so close to the person you can’t have.
But that’s life... Love makes us so happy, but yet so vulnerable. Like roses, they’re so beautifull but they hurt so bad. I think it’s those ambivalent feelings what keep us alive.
All I have to say is don’t give up. It takes a lot of courage to get close to someone and love that person. But if everything goes well, she’ll make you the happies man on earth.
So, yes, the solution to your problem is within your head.
Cheers. Mkz.
P/s: I’m pretty concerned about that line “she regrets she doesn’t have any female friend like me”. Another (less likely) possibility is that she might think you’re gay, otherwise why would she like to have a girlfriend just like you??? Oh well, it’s just a possibility, don’t panic.