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yoona said on January 19, 2003 11:18:
I am 24 and is still a virgin.
Am I the only one?
How old were you at the 1st time?
( I am not ugly ,before you ask it.There is other causes)
LittleSpooky said on January 20, 2003 19:41:
Same. I’m not into “meaningful one night stands” *lol*
That, and most guys are really uptight because I’m not exactly the “kyootie patootie next door”. I’m short, fat and basically ugly *shrugs*
Th_Th said on January 21, 2003 12:02:
I was a virgin until I got married. Because I only wanted to share such a special and sacred thing with the Person I am going to stay with forever.
Parre said on January 21, 2003 20:58:
well *outing* me too, im 24
my last friend has gone 7 years ago
but what shall i do, i never do things to meet someone, like going dancing and stuff like that
is there any chance to meet a wonderful guy ???
roxlad said on January 21, 2003 21:38:
@Parre I never go dancing too and I never meet anybody :-( sigh!
@Ally77... I’m waiting for Robbie Williams :-)
@Storm I’m lonely too. It’s a hard life!!!
@LS it’s my job to be the insicure one here!!!! :-)
@Yoona, I have met him but he happened to live in another country... so sad...
by the way... why do we always use the @ (at) symbol to refer to a person instead of 2: (to)?
sweet_stalker57 said on January 22, 2003 00:25:
oh man you gotta bust it quick cause WW111 is just around the corner. all you gotta do is go to the big shopping mall in a town not so close by. and have
a room ready.. the guy on my 100s said:
“luck is when opportunity and preparation meet”
go hit it all up... some little slut will kick down. :)
LittleSpooky said on January 22, 2003 05:19:
Oh, and Roxlad? A friend of mine asked me to set you up with her. However, I refuse to play matchmaker *smirks*
roxlad said on January 22, 2003 16:23:
@LS well... I’m a single :-( ...but as you know I like boys...
Anyway it’s nice to hear that somebody likes you :-)
yoona said on January 22, 2003 16:26:
It´s nice to hear that there are other people who thinks the same way like me.
Tack!
yoona said on January 22, 2003 16:37:
@Ally 77
And sometimes dreams comes true...for example Eric Clapton just had his second kid with a fan who is about 30 years younger .
She wanted an autograph from him and she got his heart too.(She worked in a shop and he wanted to buy something .He felt in love at the first sight.
So he went back every day to buy things he didn´t need only to see her.
Then he asked her for a date.)
Now they are happily married.
coyboyusa said on January 22, 2003 17:13:
i was 22 until i had sex and i am very glad ...too many immature peopel have sex tooo soon
LittleSpooky said on January 23, 2003 03:15:
Roxlad: Ahak... gotcha :o) Still, at least someone thinks you’re good lookin....
vaxjoe said on January 23, 2003 07:48:
vaxjoe said on January 23, 2003 07:50:
im speechless...i feel guilty too cause it never was a problem to me...sex i mean...
roxlad i cant believe u re single! u look great and u sound like an interesting person! what do u mean u never go out? whay r u waiting for?
guys if u sit at home waiting and praying its not gonna happen! act up!
Stormkeeper said on January 23, 2003 16:35:
“guys if u sit at home waiting and praying its not gonna happen! act up”
like it´s always that easy... people and situations are different see.
Not everyone has a gay community around.
roxlad said on January 23, 2003 19:35:
@Storm & Vax...
well thanks guys if you say so I’m a lucky man!!!!
I really like your ways of thinking so it’s a compliment to me....
The reason why I don’t get out is that I live in a small city nearby Rome. I work in Rome but I can never be there at night because I don’t have a car.
Of course there’s nothing going where I live...
Also I must admit that I’m a little nervous with boys...
Horny eh? Mmmm.... :-)
roxlad said on January 23, 2003 19:37:
@LS do you remember the Full Monty film? Well, I think the chubby boy was sooo cute!!!!!!! Very sweet.
Stormkeeper said on January 23, 2003 20:22:
@lad, I´m shy and sensitive (like u?)too so I know what you´re talking about.
I have no car either!
roxlad said on January 23, 2003 20:43:
I see Storm....
carry on... I’m starting to like you a lot.... :-)
LittleSpooky said on January 24, 2003 03:20:
Storm’s right. See, after my ex and I split, I have had some SERIOUS self doubts. They’ve always been there, fueled by abandonment by my family and so on and so on and so forth.
I figure, the less contact you have with me in this fashion, the better off you are.
P.S. - Lad: Never saw it. However, on guys, it’s one thing. Women is another standard all together, I’m afraid.
roxlad said on January 24, 2003 19:21:
@LS I’m very insecure too and it’s all because of these f**** standards.... it’s wrong anyway...
zeeshan said on January 25, 2003 12:11:
Count me in. Me’za virgin too :)
I am 22 and I guess I share the same thought as TH_TH. I would like to share everything with the person I will marry.
Zee
Alfonsette said on January 25, 2003 12:17:
If you don’t want to be virgin, act!
and don’t wait for the perfect boy/girl, they don’t exist
yoona said on January 25, 2003 12:36:
I am not looking for a perfect person. I am looking for someone who loves me and and whom I love.
And I want to be a virgin until I meet that person.
zeeshan said on January 26, 2003 22:02:
I truely agree that nobody is perfect. We all have our strong and weak points. But, sometimes you like to wait for someone who is really close to the sketch which is in your mind. Me doing the same.
Wait and wait and wait.
Zee
Twilight-Ghost said on January 27, 2003 16:27:
This is what I think of sex:
Most religious people or old fashion people plan to wait ’till they get married, while some have sex to experience what it’s like (they’re curious), some are naive and are easily manipulated.
Losing your virginity depends on your moral values and what kind of person you are. It is even how you look at life. For other people sex is not a big deal while for some it is one of the most precious thing.
However, if you ask me. I believe that the “special thing” should be experienced between two people who are in love with each other. I’m not even saying you have to be married, (though personally, I have to wait ’till I get married because my religion prohibits pre-marital sex). My belief is you should have sex if you’re “ready” and “in-love”.
Maybe I’m just one of those fairy tale dreamers. But my idea of ’first time’ should happen when you and your partner have this wonderful moment when you feel so much love that words alone cannot express...... then you do it.
My definition of sex is an expression of love. It is pleasurable and it could even serve a good purpose (reproduction).
You’re not doing it because you’re horny (“I need to get laid” attitude) or because it’s expected (“hey, we’ve been together for a long time, we should do it” attitude). It should be that one magic moment. A reward for being in love.
The subject of “sex” and “human relationship” is my favourite discussion among circle of friends.
What we’ve concluded before is that sex is not only about other people.
Most people think that they are still a virgin because no one would want them. But that is not always the case. Some people don’t realise that decisions you make for yourself is a big part of your virginity.
Some are still virgins because they are not confident enough (or ready) to be with other people that way, that when given the opportunity, they hold back.
@Yoona: Maybe you had opportunities to meet people but you hold back because maybe deep down, you’re scared or not ready. Could it be???
My advise is........ wait ’till you’re ready, when you have found the right person, wait for that ***magic moment***.
yoona said on January 28, 2003 10:47:
@Twilight ghost
I have same thoughts about sex and love as you .
I have met lots of guys who wanted me, but I didn´t wanted them.I am not scared, but love and sex is very special things for me, so I want to share them with a person who is also very special .
I never been in love ,that´s why I am waiting.
deja_vu said on February 2, 2003 00:53:
i choose sex after married only.. with some one that i’m gonna spend my whole life time with.. my true love, my eternal love!!
roxlad said on February 2, 2003 15:14:
It means that I didn’t have a complete thing yet but there’s been ore or two episodes in private with a boy...
Aaso said on February 8, 2003 20:02:
In general my idea about sex is same as Twilight-Ghost. But I also think the one I love is the one I marry with.
I’m 22 and I’m still virgin. In my country girls shouldn’t have sex before they got married. It’s not usual. (but its not the reason why I’m still virgin). maybe I’m not *ready* yet ;)
Denstandigaresan said on February 8, 2003 20:16:
And we need to know who is and isn’t a virgin, why??? :cO
carmie said on February 9, 2003 10:55:
i was 15 when i was introduced 2 the wonderfull world of sex . jay was my first and weve never been apart,weve been 2gether 4 about 8 years now
we have a 3 year old son 2 gether
we are still in luv i dont regert it
the sex is still good
but hes nearly 31 and sometimes needs viagra
lol
vivien said on February 9, 2003 12:34:
@Ally 77
Per lost his virginity when he was 17 in 1976 with a classmate of his.
(He said it in a german interview called Viva Jam.)
Aaso said on February 9, 2003 12:43:
2 roxlad Hi friend!! at last someone here found that I’m NEW ... (*_*)
powerpoplarry said on February 11, 2003 06:18:
Well, I lost my virginity at age 21 by my girlfriend at the time. Now, I’m 35 and single. I’ve had dates here and there, but I’ve always found it difficult to have longterm relationships, no idea why. The longest one I’ve ever had was 7 months!!
New York girls are a tough bunch as well, too cynical...
Vixzter said on June 25, 2003 20:01:
roflol .....so am I ;) if you believe that u’ll believe anything ;P
xuxa said on June 25, 2003 20:22:
I was.....mmmmm....errrrrrr.... right now, I don’t remember lols :p
theedge said on June 26, 2003 10:36:
Hi Yoona.You don´t have to worry about being virgin or not. In my opinion, the main thing is to do it with the one you want.If for you is so important and the first time it´s not good, maybe it could cause you some problems. I´m gay and it´s suposed that I should be fucking around with the one I want, but I dunno. I rather make it better, the someone I feel something for, and above all, take care and precautions. DOn´t worry dear, it will be great, sure!
xuxa said on June 26, 2003 12:43:
Theedge, I agree with you. You have to wait until you find the one, the one you really love. Fortunately, I already found this person:) I can’t imagine sex without love. I just can’t!!! Not with me!!
Jackie_Radiorox said on June 26, 2003 21:49:
You know it’s all up to you. Honestly, your first time (or first few times) should at least be with someone you care about.
Now, I don’t agree with waiting until you are married to have sex simply because sex is a very integral part of a relationship. And it’s something that you and your partner should be compatible with.
However, to each it’s own. Do what feels right to you.
DaminehGessle said on October 23, 2003 03:33:
Some people mentioned they are waiting for the person they’ll spend their entire life with, someone they love, etc. I believe most of us do it for the first time with the person we love or think we love. How can you say that is wrong when love doesn’t last? So you say a couple who get divorced after 20 years should not have sex because the love wasn’t eternal?? You never know how long a relationship lasts. Some people will always be together till death. Some split up after an unknown period of time, could be a month, 2 years or 20 years. So you can never bring up the whole “Oh I wanna do it with someone eternal” argument. That does not work out all the time.
per_mson said on October 23, 2003 12:04:
I agree with DaminehGessle!! I mean, there are still persons who don´t care about marriage and still live together for their whole life. Marriage is to me for instance nothing else than a cermonie. Sure, it can be a nice thing, but I still don´t think it has anything to do with how much you love a person. Nowadays there are no bounds that hold two persons together just because they are married. At least not in Europe and the rest of the west world.
kiwijazza said on October 23, 2003 16:31:
I was 21 the first time...and sometimes wish I hadn’t started yet (long story, won’t share it).
derek said on October 25, 2003 18:26:
crist i lost that years ago when i was 14 and thats a long time ago
JFG66 said on October 25, 2003 21:24:
oh God , what’s wrong with those western people posted their messages over here ! Well , i don’t get it and why shall keep virginity for the right person , i don’t see the problem for keeping as a virgin , i had first sexual relationship since i was 17 , well even i realized that we didn’t love each other , i can that we needed , right , i mean human has desires right . luv
kwelis_girl said on May 16, 2004 20:07:
QUOTE>I am 24 and is still a virgin.
Am I the only one?
How old were you at the 1st time?
purplemedusa said on May 16, 2004 20:20:
Hey didn’t have much time to be scared of the 1-eyed monster... lost mine @ 14yrs - couldn’y walk for a week as the guy happened to be 1 of the biggest I’ve seen 2date (just my luck LOL).
So roxlad... u still virginal? I find that absolutely adorable - innocence are indeed a rare attribute these days and something to be admired.
purplemedusa said on May 16, 2004 20:38:
I respect you but there’s no envy, love! 27yrs is a long time to be sexually frustrated! *hugs*
ally77 said on May 16, 2004 20:44:
Quote: purplemedusa 5/16/2004 21:38
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I know... tell me about it! :) but there’s that old saying “You Don’t Have It, You Don’t Miss It”
:)
Claire said on May 18, 2004 10:43:
Hey,
you dont know what ur missing! Dont bother waiting for the perfect person (that dont mean put it around either), anyway, practice makes perfect for when the *right* person does come along!
zaine said on May 29, 2004 17:53:
I love how the intelligence of users here is at an all time high...
infofarmer said on May 30, 2004 17:33:
@zaine: bingo! Does roxette do this to people or does only this kind of people like roxette?
I think you can first have sex only when you don’t think about sex. Sex for sex is dull, ugly and somewhat stupid. Personally, I totally agree with a Dogma-movie statement: sex is a joke :-)
I have some friends who lost their virginity when they were 14 or 15, many girls in some African states are said to first have sexual relationships at 12. I can’t understand girlz who are trying to stay pure till twenties, but my first rule is: if you don’t wanna fuck, don’t do it. Then, if you do want, use your brain before you indulge in romantic activities.
Billie said on May 30, 2004 21:40:
21 and not planing 2 have sex for a wail... my baby is so far away... :-(
LittleSpooky said on January 19, 2003 11:19:
Take heart, you’re not the only one here, I’m sure.