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Everlasting bliss...??
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eBay said on August 6, 2006 17:49:
Do we need to punish ourselves and become truly unhappy, push ourselves to the limits of that which we can suffer, in order to fight our way back up and know what it means to be happy? If happiness can turn into monotonous boredom, was it true happiness? The whole world seems to be in this everlasting search for happiness, companionship, for love. If you find what gives you true fulfillment and happiness, you don’t want to change the situation you are in and maintain that joyful and magnificent place that you find yourself in. But if things do not change, sooner or later boredom will begin. Boredom is not happiness. If happiness will eventually turn into boredom, does everlasting bliss exist?
TinyBubbles said on August 7, 2006 06:38:
I suggest you read the Dalai Lama’s book “the art of happiness”
Read it a few times myself, then realized there is no chance in hell of me ever finding happiness haha. .and THEN after that realization i automatically became happier. Go figure. So in my case it was possibly a matter of accepting how things are in my life and not forever be seeking that which i think will make me happy.
I think happiness might be found in different ways for different ppl. So what might be a boring life for one person might not be for another. And the kinda stress and tribulations that drive some ppl and make them happy and feel fulfilled might be the kind of life that make others extremely unhappy.
We all have different needs.
My friend David would die a very unhappy man if he didn’t constantly push himself to the limits and try and succeed more and more in life. I would live happily sitting on the front porch all day with a drink or two watching my children play. If i had to have David’s life i’d be very unhappy.
As far as everlasting bliss is concerned.. eeek beats me :P We can only philosophize my friend. There are no clear cut answers to this. Maybe just guidelines... and i’m sure there’d be others more capable of giving those guidelines than me :P
eBay said on August 7, 2006 07:13:
Thanks for your interesting comments and I must say, I have to agree to what you said.
This weekend just gone by I was at a dinner party/get together and met this woman and we talked about dreams we have in life. I told her what my life used to be like some years ago and she said that this exactly is her dream and she would be happy to have all this. I told her that it is funny, what to her would have been the perfect life, to me was a nightmare..
coyboyusa said on August 8, 2006 01:32:
happiness is a dish best served cold and with a side of orgasm :)
whateveriam said on August 8, 2006 21:25:
Happiness is achievable-with or without the side order Coyboy. You just have to work out what makes you happy in the first place, and try to eliminate/minimize the effects of the stuff that doesn’t...
Except that life isn’t that simple, is it?
nate said on August 11, 2006 00:06:
Great topic E-bay!
From my experience, I have found that my happiest moments were the times when I was not just living only to please myself. The most satisfying moments in my life - when I have felt most alive, content, at peace, and fulfilled were the times when I had opportunity to actively (directly/indirectly) contribute something positive into the lives of others (ex. homeless shelter in Toronto). Whenever I’ve lived my life only to please myself, I quickly became bored. Sure, I may have enjoyed the pleasures for the moment - but the pleasure always seemed to be very short-lived.
Generally speaking, I’ve also found I’m happiest when I’m not constantly trying to compete with the Jones’s. When I begin the comparison game, I can become enamoured with what everyone else has that I’m missing, and I forget how fortunate I really am. There will always be someone who is taller, more beautiful/handsome, more successful, more athletic, more wealthy, more eloquent, more intelligent, more wise, have a larger home, own more real estate, have a larger Roxette collection, have a more attractive spouse, have more investments etc. than myself. If I focus on what I do not have, I’m well on my way down the road of unhappiness.
It seems a lot easier to discuss it, than to put into practice.
ally77 said on August 6, 2006 18:49:
Perhaps I am not the ideal person to answer that!!!!!!!!!!