silverROSES said on December 5, 2005 11:54:

Chippy!!!! The philippines is one of the only 2 country in the world that don’t have the divorce bill!!!!!!

Santi said on December 5, 2005 12:03:

Which one is the other country, The Vatican?

silverROSES said on December 5, 2005 15:00:

Christ never permits it. But I guess it is should be used in a proper way. They should not play with it. Just like what we see in hollywood stars

LittleSpooky said on December 5, 2005 21:07:

See, that’s the problem I find with most “mainstream” religions: They frown on divorce to the point where someone is unwilling to seek that option.

A lady I know has been married 22 years to this guy. When they first got married, life was pretty good. They had kids (2, boy and girl), and things were moving along fairly well. One night, her husband was in a pretty bad car wreck. He recovered completely, but doctors weren’t sure of the extent of his head injury in terms of what was affected. This guy was bound and determined that no matter what, he would try to continue to lead a “normal” existence.

He and the doctors figured, at most, there would be issues with memory: Occassionally forgetting where the local store was, or maybe forgetting that 5 years ago, he had gotten a computer for Christmas and can’t figure out where he got it from. General stuff like that. They were also aware of more serious issues and would just moinitor him over time. Time marched on, and he went from being someone who wouldn’t let this keep him down to: Quitting the job because of this “brain injury” (though nothing had affected his job performance), to only playing on the computer, staying up all night, not doing house work, and not raising the kids.

This lady took the burden on at first, thinking that there may have been a problem that no one forcasted. She had gone through a series of jobs (most of them were just projects that they hired her for) and then finally wound up where she’s been for the last 5 years, at the COB. By then, her husband had pretty much decided that all he wanted to do was play, do stuff he wanted to do, and so on down the line. He’s an intelligent man, I know this. All one has to do is talk to him. You would never know he was in an accident all those years ago.

Now, this lady’s day goes a little something like this: Up at 5 - 5:30am. Do a little exercising (she sits at a desk all day), shower, and dress for work. I don’t know whether or not she makes sure the kids are up, but either she does or she relies on them to get up with the alarm clocks they both possess. Out the door to catch the bus at about 7:04am. Takes the 40 minute ride into work and starts her day around 8am. She works until 4, and then starts to get ready to go home. She’s a production artist, and designs signs that are used at various buildings.

She catches the bus at 4:40pm and gets home around 5:15pm. Then she has to do housework, try to get the kids to do homework, do the yard and so on down the line. And sometimes, she’s had to work over, so the day winds up being even longer by taking the later busses home. What does her husband do while she’s at work? Not much beyond eat, sleep, and play on the computer or watch television.

She plans on leaving him soon (probably by spring) but feels guilty for doing so. Why? “He doesn’t drink, doesn’t do drugs, doesn’t hit me or the kids, he’s not an ogre...” But almost ALL religions forget one of the MOST important parts of all: The emotional abuse. This man’s a bad example to the kids, and her son is following right along with it (he’s 16). Her daughter tries to help... probably does better when I’m there to poke at her and ask her to help us both out. Her husband doesn’t even perform his “husbandly duties”.

Do I support divorce? I came from a broken home myself. I won’t stand idly by while a friend of mine suffers to the extent that she has all because the religion says: “Families are forever”. Bullshit. Not at the expense of one person’s mental health, their sanity, and well being. And not at the expense of the same for the children.

silverROSES said on December 6, 2005 06:04:

I’m not against it!! Though the bible has a clear stand on it!!

All i’m saying is that it should be used properly.

Well it still depends on what we value.

I’ve also known a lot of stories of people of who wanted to get out of marriage but they couldn’t since there is no divorce in the country...

ally77 said on December 7, 2005 08:17:

Neil, I hear what your saying... when I was at school I was around 13 years old, so we’re going 15 years ago + I remember sitting on the field one lunch break with some friends, most of whom there parents where divorced... I said “I wished my parents where divorced” they went so mad at me, saying I should not say stuff like that etc.... but it was how I felt... I have seen my parents in an unhappy marriage for a long time... and I was always piggy in the middle of the rows....

They are still married... just had there 30th anniversary... mum can’t stand my father! lol

roxlad said on December 7, 2005 12:16:

I agree with divorce if there are serious issues.